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Richey
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PostPosted: Tue Jun 24, 2008 3:57 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

The way i see it is that it is actually very rare to see relationships that are fully genuine and not based on an agenda or superficiality, which is why i'm probably single out of thinking that a girl will see it that way , so many relationships just seem to exist and are based on "well fuck it if i'm not in one then i wont be able to marry, have kids, be seen with a partner, have financial back-up" ..

three of my friends had their hearts broken by girls that were "free and easy" meaning they'll jump at any guy that shows the slightest interest in them, so of course it wont last long ...another friend had helped this girl get back on her feet, provided, looked after her, they then got married and she ended up leaving him on the spur for the soul reason that she thought he talked about his hobbies of geeky comic books too often when she didnt to seem to have any hobbies herself, she took most of the shared posessions and left him with alot of debt that he couldn't handle, its so wrong but its all too common ..

Lets be honest its always rosy and exciting initially but usually fizzles out over time, thats why divorce rates are so high and couples seem adament on spending all their time together, hitched with no real purpose but because society is conditioned to live this traditional acustomed lifestyle its just how it works ...

i think true love in its natural form is very rare but you see it in some people and it means the chemistry is constant, there is no agenda or real expectations of that person to change their interests or persona to suit you and the buzz factor doesnt fade over time .

i dont get how people can go on blind dates or date if you've never had a friendship with that person, yet i also see this occur alot, its so illogical or is it just a physical endeavour? i would have thought you'd want to get to know them for a while before venturing down that path ..

anyhoo i;m not describing my thoughts well at all at all so i'll end it here, hopefully i got some of it across ..

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PostPosted: Tue Jun 24, 2008 8:47 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Girl: Do you work?
Me: No
Girl not interested no more...

Maintain yo fuken self, and I wont ask shit from you either. lol

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PostPosted: Tue Jun 24, 2008 10:27 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Has anyone ever heard of the ugly duck? or the Beauty and the Beast? or the frog that had a prince inside who only showed out when a girl kissed it?
As I see it, today girls go to discos to flirt and to 'bitch' (as i read in a USA girls' forum). They have sex with strangers who they shall never see again (that point seems to be an important one) and then, when they have already had sex with several strangers they found in discos, they regret about "men are all the same" and bla bla bla like they are angels who never broke a thing., and they seem to oversee the nice good boys like us.
And there you have the ugly ducks, Beasts, and prince-frogs who never had a girlfriend, while they really are what girls really need.
I could give such a huge amount of love, affection, tenderness... a girl should be the most happy one with just that , and without needing anything else than that. But you see... i'm always on my own, and doesn't seem like any girl is ever going to be interested in me, cause i'm not a winner, and i'm not self-secure, and i'm not this or that....
Does a self-secure man make you happy just by being self-secure? Does a pretty face make you happy? does a winner make you happy by just being a winner? Don't you all think there are some more important things than just material and physical ones???

Sorry, but I do see such a disgraceful mistake in all this!!

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PostPosted: Tue Jun 24, 2008 10:54 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Girls only wants you if you don't want her so much. She only wants you if she knows that she is just an alternative for something good in his life. Girls wants to convice the guy they like to like her. To choose her over something else. If he already likes her from the beginning just as much as she likes him then he is boring. Razz


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PostPosted: Wed Jun 25, 2008 12:50 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Yup, stupid women. If I wasn't so homophobic i would've turned gay a LONG time ago.

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PostPosted: Wed Jun 25, 2008 12:52 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

your username really tickles the funny bone Smile

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PostPosted: Wed Jun 25, 2008 1:02 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

zootdroop wrote:
shield wrote:
I think a lot of guys on here who are still virgins should go to a brothel. Guys if it's such a big deal to you being a virgin just go and have sex with some prostitutes. You will be awful at first but who cares you need some practice and I think it will make you feel a whole lot better to just get it out of your system and feel that you are on the same level as everyone else. I did it and that's how I got over my feelings of inferiority for never having had a girlfriend.


I don't know about anybody else, but me wanting a girlfriend has really nothing to do with sex. I just want somebody who I like and more importantly likes me. I'm sure sex would happen if I found someone, but it's really not the thing that's making me want someone. Being a virgin doesn't bother me in the least. I wanna cuddle and hold hands with a girl more than have sex with one.


i agree man. i am with you there.

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PostPosted: Wed Jun 25, 2008 1:10 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

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I don't know about anybody else, but me wanting a girlfriend has really nothing to do with sex


I understand that. I meant if you were uncomfortable with sex. [/quote]

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PostPosted: Sun Jun 29, 2008 1:01 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

drd77 wrote:
zootdroop wrote:
shield wrote:
I think a lot of guys on here who are still virgins should go to a brothel. Guys if it's such a big deal to you being a virgin just go and have sex with some prostitutes. You will be awful at first but who cares you need some practice and I think it will make you feel a whole lot better to just get it out of your system and feel that you are on the same level as everyone else. I did it and that's how I got over my feelings of inferiority for never having had a girlfriend.


I don't know about anybody else, but me wanting a girlfriend has really nothing to do with sex. I just want somebody who I like and more importantly likes me. I'm sure sex would happen if I found someone, but it's really not the thing that's making me want someone. Being a virgin doesn't bother me in the least. I wanna cuddle and hold hands with a girl more than have sex with one.




i agree man. i am with you there.


me too. you know 80% of the people say that their first time was HORRIBLE because "it didn' fit" or other kinda traumatic things. instead, just being close to a girl you like/love, touching a little bit,... is also really comfortable and fun.
well that's the opinion from a virgin Wink
but i'm only 15 so I don't really worry about having sex asap.

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PostPosted: Sun Jun 29, 2008 3:48 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Strong_Silent_One wrote:
Has anyone ever heard of the ugly duck? or the Beauty and the Beast? or the frog that had a prince inside who only showed out when a girl kissed it?
As I see it, today girls go to discos to flirt and to 'bitch' (as i read in a USA girls' forum). They have sex with strangers who they shall never see again (that point seems to be an important one) and then, when they have already had sex with several strangers they found in discos, they regret about "men are all the same" and bla bla bla like they are angels who never broke a thing., and they seem to oversee the nice good boys like us.
And there you have the ugly ducks, Beasts, and prince-frogs who never had a girlfriend, while they really are what girls really need.
I could give such a huge amount of love, affection, tenderness... a girl should be the most happy one with just that , and without needing anything else than that. But you see... i'm always on my own, and doesn't seem like any girl is ever going to be interested in me, cause i'm not a winner, and i'm not self-secure, and i'm not this or that....
Does a self-secure man make you happy just by being self-secure? Does a pretty face make you happy? does a winner make you happy by just being a winner? Don't you all think there are some more important things than just material and physical ones???

Sorry, but I do see such a disgraceful mistake in all this!!


And the same thing can also said for many men.
We're all freakin' disgraceful mistakes Laughing

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