well guys, its all about getting the balls to approach her. i know that its easier said than done, but you have to be bold with women. and you should be a gentleman, but don't act overly nice. that will scare them away. i've learned a lot from a site called sosuave.com. you guys should check it out.
a girl at a shop seemed verrry interested in me last time i walked in for a bite to eat, she wanted to know my name so i'm thinking next time i'll definately ask her out to a movie or just to meet up, just as friends, i have nothing to lose at all and i'd rather at least find out how i go rather then not knowing at all ...
well i keep meeting guys that i really like but end up completely pushing them away coz of my HH and its so sad it really depresses me watching all my friends getting into really deep relationships and i never get to do anything
and not all girls are evil. some of them r just as insecure as u
I have trouble with girls too, i had my first and only gf until I was 21(well I'm still 21)
I've read a lot about this problem, and I would say, if you are reaching 20, haven't been in a relationship and you are socially awkward, shy... start to worry you have to work on that ASAP
real life 40 year old virgins started the same way as us, and it's a more common problem than we think, and very easy to have it the only thing we have to do is wait...
I’m 23 and I have never gone on a date, never been kissed, so of course never had a boyfriend. I think this is due to the fact that I have always been in schools and classes where there are mostly girls and very few boys, as I’m not really social phobic, I’m just slightly social anxious. However, I kind of enjoy my single status.
Anyway, I’m new on SPW. I have been looking through some other threads and it seems that a lot of guys here have trouble talking to the girls. Interestingly, while some of you feel like you “have nothing to offer”, many of you know your good qualities but are just too shy to show them.
I guess the thing to do is to be more confident but I do realize this is something easier said than done. Maybe you could work on one small thing at a time. I think you should start by making a list of conversation topics to avoid the mind-going-blank situation (even if you can’t think of anything interesting, I’m sure there are websites that offer suggestions). Practice introducing yourself and talking about those topics infront of a mirror (they say practice makes perfect!). Then, you can try to be more sociable with the people you already know, like your friends, classmates, family or colleagues so you don’t get too nervous. I think setting smaller goals could help too. Instead of “I’m gonna make that girl fall head over heels for me”, try something along the line of “I’m gonna go over there and say hi and introduce myself”. Ask the girl about her interests for example. If she is in to painting you can ask what kind of painting she does, why she likes it blah blah blah… Voice your opinion too. Tell her something about yourself (this you have practiced!). If you succeed in asking her out, going to the movies is not a bad idea for a first date. That way, you’re on a date, but you won’t have to talk for at least 90 minutes, and if afterwards you don’t have anything to say, at least you can talk about the movie you just saw.
The things above are just my personal opinions. Hope they can help somewhat.
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