past bullying, still lives on....help needed

Satine · Newbie User Joined: Jul 03, 2008 Posts: 29

I'd say you might want to try moving forward, going to another town. Pick where you go with some care, base it on what you want to be in the future, rather than how you are now. I moved from Crawley, UK (grim place, nobody there is really happy) to Worthing, (happy place, but full of the elderly so not much fun for teenagers as I was at the time) to Brighton. Brighton has been a great place to me and continues to be. Lively, young, friendly, cosmopolitan and diverse, it has everything I could ever want. I've still plenty of space to grow in such a town.

I think you should look for this too. As you work through the troubles of your past as a victim of bullying, you tend do 'shed your skin' several times. Reinvent yourself, maybe. So going somewhere new would be a fantastic new start for you.

Suggestion: perhaps don't tell the people in the new town about your history. You might just find that you don't need to. Move forward always. Your past is like a tangled ball of wool - it'll take a long time to unravel, but you'll be able to, little bit by little bit. If you try to do it all in one go you'll end up bogged down with it, so remember to put the past to one side often, safe in the knowledge that you can pick it up again if you want to, to put right some more bits.

But all the new experiences you will go through in your new home will give you more wisdom and life experience with which to work through your past. So give yourself plenty of time to just enjoy the here and now.

girl · Newbie User Joined: Aug 28, 2008 Posts: 12

That can't continue. You can't let it. You shouldn't.
If you can't forget the bad things that happened, then use them as inspiration to succeed in whatever you wanna do in life.
Do, accomplish as much as you can. That's the best revenge you can have.