Someone booked me a stripper... what should I do?

GKJB · Newbie User Joined: Jun 06, 2008 Posts: 37

It's my 18th birthday on Friday, & so far this past few days I've been more anxious than I've ever been before. My sister is taking me out to some bars & pubs on Saturday with her mates & our family, which I'm already anxious enough about. But now her mate has booked me a stripper... I don't think I'll be able to handle all the attention focused on me from everyone. I told my sister a few weeks ago to make sure nobody books me a stripper because I'll be too embarassed, but I think she just found it strange that I didn't like the idea because she doesn't know how anxious I am because I always feel comfortable when I'm round her house.

What can I do?

I really didn't want to go anywhere for my birthday, but everyone was like 'you have to its your 18th' but at the end of the day, if I'm not going to enjoy myself then why set it up for me? I told them all that I want to stay in & have a quiet one but they wouldn't listen. Now its gone so far that I can't just tell everyone I'm not coming. I;m worried I'll let everyone down because when it comes to the day I might end up ignoring my phone & door & everyone will hate me for wasting the effort they've all made

My sister said they're all gonna be forcing drinks down my neck but I don;t want to drink anymore because whenever I do I spend days feeling ashamed & depressed afterwards. I hate birthdays Sad

RedRibbons · Posted: Tue Jul 08, 2008 2:13 pm Post subject:

It's completely unfair that they are imposing things on you that you don't want. They are being disrespectful. Tell them that you'll go out for dinner, but no stripper...? Stop letting them push you around and disrespect you like that. Maybe talk to one of your parents or something...? Sometimes I find the only way to get people to understand how serious I am is to get angry. Exercise your freedom of choice.

Lexmark · Posted: Tue Jul 08, 2008 2:48 pm Post subject:

Just get drunk
you will probably like it more than you think

dpr · Posted: Tue Jul 08, 2008 4:35 pm Post subject:

I've never really understood the whole "hiring a stripper for a night" thing, cuz you don't get to see them until they get to the door. And let's get real, 90% of strippers are ugly as sin. Just tell your sister's friend that. That you think strippers are tacky, and you're not into it. Tell him, "It's just not my thing."

But I think you should go to the party. Seems like whenever I force myself to go to these "social outings" they usually turn out better than I expected, and I feel silly for being so worried beforehand. And the few times that my fears were realized and I have felt uncomfortable at the party, I at least feel somewhat proud of myself that I got up and went. The times when I make up some excuse and don't go, I feel relieved at first, but then I usually feel guilty, ashamed, etc. afterwards.

GKJB · Newbie User Joined: Jun 06, 2008 Posts: 37

GKJB · Newbie User Joined: Jun 06, 2008 Posts: 37

RedRibbons · Posted: Tue Jul 08, 2008 5:25 pm Post subject:

I think you should keep the text short and sweet..

Like..

I'd like to go out, but I don't want a stripper. I appreciate it, but it's not my idea of 'fun', please respect my choice.

Or you can make it sound manly if you want. lol or completely different. Just getting too deep about it doesn't really help.

OhioTodd · Posted: Tue Jul 08, 2008 5:26 pm Post subject:

I don't really know that I would recommend getting drunk. It may work but it may also make it worse. I have found drinking can go either way when dealing with my S.A.D. I sometimes don't get mentally drunk - 110% alert in my brain, but everything else about me is drunk, so then I am just overanalyzing the fact people are all looking at me funny for slurring my words and losing all motor skills. Then the problem just gets worse than it originally was.

GKJB · Newbie User Joined: Jun 06, 2008 Posts: 37

bulldog21083 · Posted: Tue Jul 08, 2008 8:21 pm Post subject:

On one hand I want to say lucky you, I wouldn't mind if someone did that for my birthday.

But I also totally understand why you don't want a stripper. I've gone to strip clubs a few times with some friends, I'll admitt I was a little uncomfortable at at first. Obviously you go there to look at the dancers, but I just felt almost like a pervert when I looked. Plus if I smiled I really felt like people would think I'm a creep. At one point one of the strippers asked me what was wrong cause I wasn't smiling. After a while I finally just relaxed a little more.

But then when my friends bought me a lapdance on my birthday and it was just me and the stripper, that was a whole nother akward scenario. I just didn't know how I was supposed to act.