So I grow the balls, and...

Jura · Newbie User Joined: Feb 29, 2008 Posts: 52

... tell this girl I like her. Her answer? "You think I don't know that? It's so obvious." She asked me a few more questions about it, and that's it, she fucks off. But seeing as she has been so nice to me in the past, how can she show such apathy now and not even... I don't know, say or do something nice to make me feel good? Not even give me a hug or something? She's very outgoing, and hugs A LOT of people. This seriously hurt my self-esteem...

sabbath92003 · Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 11:23 am Post subject:

At least she didn't kick you in the balls :p

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Kien · Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 1:04 pm Post subject:

Proven. Grils hates shy guys. I'm glad I didn't tell last one I got nutty over.

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hippiechild · Newbie User Joined: Oct 31, 2007 Posts: 83 Location: Ohio

Qwerty...

Kien · Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 3:25 pm Post subject:

But not everyone was positive. And I'm sure most are not.

They make the greatest guy friend. You can usually talk to them and they'll understand, unlike those big shots.
But for dating, I'd rather the louder, bolder guy.
Only because they turn out to be more fun & start more comical, long conversations.
I mean, if the shy guy makes great conversations, then it's debatable.

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I don't like when a guy is shy because I'm kind of shy and if a guy doesn't make the first move then I rarely will.

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Shy Guy = Unattractive. Predictable.

Really Shy = No way in hell.

But the truth is, they are the best types of guys on this planet. Girls would rather date the d*ck head than the nice guy. Sad but true. It may be cute, but its not going to get you any. It puts you into the "friend zone" not the boyfriend zone.

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shy men are too damn boring. never has nothing to say. never want to try interesting stuff so what the heck

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hippiechild · Newbie User Joined: Oct 31, 2007 Posts: 83 Location: Ohio

Exactly, Kien! Even when actively searching for a single webpage on the entire internet, it is practically impossible to find anyone who "likes shy guys."
It's not without good reason either, I am boring, terrible at conversing in an interesting way and afraid to approach girls (or anyone for that matter) Sad

DannieCleo · Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 4:26 pm Post subject:

personally as a (female!) SA/AvPD "sufferer" i prefer shyer, introverted guys because a) i find them less intimidating b) i think they can actually understand me without the negative reaction c) less likely to be arrogant (i hate arrogance. also people who are overly outgoing just for the purose of being cente of attention).

for me personally the only downside is that a shy guy would probably never approach me. and since i would never approach him, we would be at stalemate lol

Possibly the only way it could "happen" is if we started out as friends first.

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Chod77 · Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 4:27 pm Post subject:

hippiechild · Newbie User Joined: Oct 31, 2007 Posts: 83 Location: Ohio

Dannie and Chod, I feel similarly. As a shy guy, I find introverted girls attractive for many of the reasons that you listed. It seems that we, sufferers of SA and AvPD, are the only ones that can really understand each other.

after looking at the girls that Qwerty posted...
I'd imagine that any girl capable of saying "I hate *insert characteristic* guys and so do most of my friends!" could not possibly be worth very much anyway.