What makes us targets?

Kien · Posted: Fri Jun 06, 2008 8:26 pm Post subject:

The logic is that someone people are evil and should have their heads filled grenade fragments.

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coriander1992 · Posted: Fri Jun 06, 2008 9:37 pm Post subject:

Convict187 · Posted: Mon Jun 09, 2008 3:02 am Post subject:

I think that if you are a confident person you are less likely to be bullied then someone who isn't confident..

I was deaf at the age of 2 year old but didn't get hearing aids untill I was 11 years old (After I was hit by a car) so it was impossible for me to learn anything much..

And when I started secondary school I was bullied for being deaf, and no one did anything to stop it.. I was bullied until I stopped going out at the age of 16 year old..

I feel that if I just hit out at one of them it would of stopped it, but that's was not who I was and they know it!!

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Len · Intermediate User Joined: Jun 06, 2008 Posts: 102

I am sorry to hear people here have been bullied. I was never bullied although I was teased by my brothers who are partly responsible for my phobias I think.

I am no expert but my opinion is that some people that do the bullying may actually grow up to be nice people. Perhaps the bullies had abuse parents and they learned how to bully from them. Bullying therefore is part of this society we live in and needs to be tackled by such things as changing the values and behaviours of society, educating parents and reducing poverty and anti-social behaviour.

We need to foster more of an inclusive society like we once were back when we were hunter-gatherers. It's funny because primitive societies were laughed at by the colonialists but now look at modern society and we can see how much they fu#ked up.

Perhaps you need to focus less on the bullies and more on how to get out of the circle of self-doubt and anxiety. Improve your self esteem by changing your thought patterns and accepting who you are. Try and find support from services in your area.

P.S I am not trying to defend the bullies and believe that what they did was extremely harmful. I am just trying to show it from a different perspective which may or may not help.

Jura · Newbie User Joined: Feb 29, 2008 Posts: 52

The reason some people bully is because they are introverted and antisocial. When they see someone who is weaker than them, they see the opportunity to feel superior. An extrovert, on the other hand, who likes people in general, will see a person that is "weak" or has the potential to be bullied, as a positive trait, and be really nice to that person. Simple as that. Extroverts like the innocence and sincerity "weak" people display.

Openminded · Newbie User Joined: Jun 10, 2008 Posts: 1

I find that people bully me for a reason, The fact that I am different, they think I am Jewish (and I am 1/4) and when they don't think this, they think I am gay, I hate people like this, Not because they bully me, but because they Judge a book by its cover, I am only 12 and I'm Gay? how is this possible at my age? Mad

and if it were, Why would I tell people like them?, I don't have anything against homo/ Bisexuals at all, I like to talk about anything to anyone anyway (If you need to chat my MSN is Jdh123@hotmail.co.uk ^^), Anyway I hate my school, I have told my teachers and head of year so many times and it feels like they have not done anything at all because it still carries on, Like everyone (I hope) I want bullying to stop for every ones sake. I mainly think people do it because they are different in some way; The Colour of Hair/eyes/Skin, Freckles/spots, Gender, Sexuality and Weight ( like me aswell Embarassed

) I want people like them to be punished in such a way it will discourage people never to bully, I really feel strongly about this, Honestly. I DO like to talk so E-mail me or Get a convosation going with me and get it off your cest Smile

James.

LeeAnne · Newbie User Joined: Jul 14, 2008 Posts: 24

I discovered my bully had a far worse weakness than anything I could have, and I assume that made her bully.

She has secrets to hide so where one person might become an introvert, they become loud and complaining to compensate.

She had a tendency to go after more introverted students, or students from another country.

She falsely accused a student of sexual harassment, and taunted him for being from Iran. I think she accused him of harassment because she figured "the popular (stupid, ignorant) people" didn't like his race.

It was witnessed that she completely made it up and targeted the guy.

I figure they have worse crap in their closet.

girl · Newbie User Joined: Aug 28, 2008 Posts: 12

Let me tell you something you should already know. Most bullies aren't smart. On the contrary - they're so "intelligent" they don't know their reasons for treating people badly. They can't tell the difference between a good kind person that does not want to swoop down to their level and a weak person who simply can't find back.
I assure you, even if you were the second type you did NOT deserve to be bullied.
But I know why they picked you. Because you let them. Because you didn't fight back.
I'm sorry to say, after three years of being bullied, that if you don't fight back people just keep hurting you. They take the opportunity you give them to humiliate you and they do just that. It's horrible, it's unfair but it happens to you if you let it happen.
My advice is though - since it's all behind you.. try to forget it. Think about all the good stuff that has happened to you recently, think about all the people that love you, think about all that you managed to accomplish in your life. And all that you have yourself to thank for. Huh, maybe that inferiority complex is just imaginative.
It's all in your head. But if you change your negative thoughts toward yourself to good ones? Things might change in reality too.
Plus, we make our own confidence. Good luck.

spd4 · Newbie User Joined: Sep 07, 2008 Posts: 6

There is some research that reveals there are some personality traits that make you more at risk of being bullyed.
You are more likely to be anxious, unstable, submissive, introverted & concientious.
I have been bullied at school & at work several times by different people.
It does feel like the bullies just know which person to bully, its almost like you are a magnet.
Sometimes I think it must be me, maybe I'm too sensitive or just paranoid.

qwerty103 · Newbie User Joined: Aug 19, 2008 Posts: 92

See guys I told you. We weren't born with Social Phobia, but there's something in our past that made us like this, because we weren't be like this if something didn't happen behind us.

I remember in my younger age, I used to be very outgoing. I was...until the age of 13 or 14 I think. I guess it's because I had a strict past with my parents, bullied, negative comments around people, and was sexually abused as well (I'm a guy though).