My 13 yr old son is being bullied

Johno · Posted: Fri Dec 07, 2007 6:34 pm Post subject:

I think its important to find out why they are treating your son this way. Most bullies have an agenda. It may well be that he is small. However, many small kids aren't bullied. I would imagine your son has the answer to this. Having him talk about it is the real challenge. In the mean time I would come down extremely hard on the school. Remind them strongly of their policy. If all else fails change schools. He should not have to put up with that crap.

FillyPhile · Newbie User Joined: Jan 15, 2008 Posts: 2

With boys, fighting back is a valid option. When I was in school, all you had to show was a willingness to fight and they would leave you alone. It may cost him a black eye and a fat lip, but he'll be respected.

Sorry if this offends some people, but this is the same advice I give my own sons (neither has ever had to fight).

Truther_Pro · Newbie User Joined: Apr 02, 2008 Posts: 6

joeljjison · Newbie User Joined: Mar 02, 2008 Posts: 58

"The school counselor tells him to ignore the bullies and to just walk away. After days and days of taunting and teasing he asks me how do you just ignore it? They "accidentally" bump into him."

Hmm, sounds familiar... and i'm sure its not just me in here! But school counselors are meant to be useless, as well as untrustworthy...

Dropping him out of PE sounds like plan... some say ask him first... i dont know theres pros and cons... if you ask him if he wants to... and then they dont let you take him out of pe he'll be dissapointed. well you know your son better than we do..

i imagine the teachers are blind to it, (either that or the bullies are smart... which would be worse imho)

i dont think taking him out of pe will fix the problem... just move it.... its like trying to part water... as soon as your hand is out , the water will sink back where it was... the bullies will find a void, and taunt him elsewhere. theres 2 ways to stop a bully i reckon... power, and guilt. power can take on any form... whether it be beating them up, causing trouble with their parents or teachers, or something more covert..

the problem is, its unlikely you can get sufficient attention from the teachers to deal out a punishment that will actually effect the bullies, without the situation getting really bad (ie your sons state of mind)

im beginning to think im too pessimistic to post in these threads.. thinking about it...

size doesn't mean fighting back isn't an option.. training can accomplish anything, even if you have two left hands... another pro is he may meet people who wouldn't mind beating up bullies... unlikely though...

also if its self defense to be practical.. its worth putting some thought into what (this is all hypothetical of course if hes up for it) he trains in..

Johno · Posted: Fri Apr 11, 2008 6:45 pm Post subject:

Something similar happened to my niece. We couldn't help her. Eventually her mum wised up and took her out of the school. It worked. She is doing really well now..

Kien · Posted: Fri Apr 11, 2008 6:52 pm Post subject:

I just wish the bullier could be really picked out then the police comes, searches the school and shoot them on sight, shoot to kill.

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IceNerveshatter · Newbie User Joined: May 28, 2008 Posts: 47

If I was in your situation I would go beat up some of those kids. It sounds fucked up, but hey--it would work. They would never see it coming either. Reminds me of Bad Santa. lol.

girl · Newbie User Joined: Aug 28, 2008 Posts: 12

There's no ignoring bullying. I learned that the hard way.
All the people that told me to "ignore the bullies", they had no idea what they were talking about. They didn't understand and therefore their advice.. was useless.
People who aren't bullied just don't get it. So sometimes asking them for help.. is just a waste of time. Sad but true. Also - learned the hard way.
Don't let your son learn things the hard way. Please.
Fighting back, preferably verbally, is the only right way to go. He should tell those .. mean kids (that's the nicest I can call them) that they have no right to treat him that way and that he isn't going to let them do that anymore.
And if they hit him or something? Then that's YOUR cue to take matters in your own hands. Protect your child. Now may be the only time he actually lets you do that.

Ericisme · Posted: Wed Sep 24, 2008 7:07 am Post subject:

LITERALY the ONLY solution to that is just give your kid a gun and let him do his work. There has been no other solution to bullys, you move away they are at every school and your last bully bullies somebody else.

Angel_Of_Death · Posted: Wed Sep 24, 2008 8:05 am Post subject:

There aren't too many solutions, but I don't think you can let your kid being bullied. If you do, it can have devastating effects on him in the future.

One solution is for you to get in touch with the "older" and "bigger" guys in the school who aren't necessarily the bullies. Get a couple of guys from the school's football team or something....pay them, and just tell them to protect your son. Don't pay them to beat anyone up, but just to watch over your son and protect him.

Not sure if that could work out, but who knows...

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