Soloution for BLUSHING(only my opionion)

theblusher · Newbie User Joined: Aug 29, 2008 Posts: 2

Hi to everyone who suffer so hard from blushing,
I think i know what will remove our social phobia and the most important thing that cause it BLUSHING. p.s my enlish is not perfect sorry.
I'm male 27 and i got this problem for 14 years.i didn't go to school from the age of 15 and didn't have much contact with ppl in my teenage years.
at 19-20 things were better but still very bad.i blush in every sitiuation,new ppl,family,girls basicly everything.i lost so many things in life because of this.ppl can't believe i have this problem.I don't say this to sound proud but I'm very inteleget,have my own busines(online so i don't need to deal with ppl:)very funny.I look like a top model I never needed to work hard with girls.i lost so many relationships in my life with many girls i like.i have few girls a week talking to me or looking in a way that i just need to talk.when they talk to me i'm blushing and they don't understnd whats worng.i can only meet girls when i'm totaly drunk.

if we need to analize why we all blushing I will say this:
confidant?Not only. you don't need much confidant just to say hi to someone and not blushing.the problem is we are afraid of something and most of us are sensitive due to this problem or regardless.
My solotion is symple:We need to be 100 times more confidant then all other ppl then we won't blush AT ALL.
First thing:women and men we need not to afraid of anything in life.
we should all go and learn two or three marshel arts like karate or boxing or other arts and do it the best we can.working in the gym won't help but
marshel arts would help.after 2-3 years working hard you won't blush.can you imagine someone with a brown or black belt in karate blushing because someone ask him something??if we do this we are removing the main problem.being afraid of situation.when u have so much conidance you can not be afraid and you are cutting that endless circle.we need to build our confidance much higher then other then we won't blush.
also other things would help being a really good dancer will help in many social situation.many things could help but the most important.learn marshel arts. many of us are just TOO nice and sensitive and more likely to be afraid of something.learning marshel arts will remove the most important problem we deal with and thats FEAR of something.i don't blush because i get hurt.i'm not ahsam of all things that cause me to blush i jus fear from the situation that will cause me to blush.more important if you are young act now.don't let it go for years.we don't need medicion,we don't need surgey,we are AFRAID of something geneticly or from a learning situation but we can remove it.

I'm starting this week to practise marshelarts and i will keep you guys update if i feel any change.I must make changes now as i can't take the situation anymore loosing relationshsip with so many ppl just from one stupid reason blushing.if someone say that we just need to deal with it and it not so bad.we all know how bad is it:) i want totally remove this problem from my life and i beleive it POSSIBLE! good luck and love to all!

mia · Newbie User Joined: Sep 08, 2008 Posts: 1

i like your idea... of needing more confidence than other ppl.. maybe it would work... i used to do alot of sports and when i was doing my sports i was ok, but its just in those other situations, i get really embarressed when im with cirtain people , just one on one, i think because there is no-one else there to take that persons attention you know? i start to feel self consious, then usually i lose the conversation and go red its so mortifying!! i used to drink alot so that i would be more confident, but that never helps in the long term... i have looked at hypno thearapy too but i dont hav money for anything like that. let me know how the martial arts works out for u.. Smile