Blank mind

NubCake · Newbie User Joined: Jul 14, 2008 Posts: 5

Yes it happens to me a lot. Usually at work or with a group of people. I always think of what I should have said after the conversation is over. Im guessing adrenaline plays a part in blanking out. So my best bet is to limit stimulant intake... Kind of hard for me since I love my coffee. Wink

Lexmark · Posted: Thu Jul 17, 2008 7:59 am Post subject:

I think it happens to all of us because were to scared to be ourselves.
Before I talk im always analizing what Im going to say instead of just being who i really am and saying things naturally.

TAMPA-BAY · Posted: Thu Jul 17, 2008 9:07 am Post subject: hi.

Hi congrads on your first post. I agree with the previous post by lexmax.

I notice the problem is I,We go into perfectionist moode where we try to think of the perfect response-perfect topic-and on and on.

The mainstreamers just say the first thing that comes to mind. Try not to be perfect.

BreachedSecurity · Newbie User Joined: May 29, 2008 Posts: 12

I too suffer from this big time to and I agree with the perfectionist comment above, [/quote]

autumn · Newbie User Joined: Feb 05, 2007 Posts: 9

My god I am the exact same way. I hate it so much. In a matter of fact I am going to my co-op bar-b-q soon, and I know it will happen again. But I want to go anyways. I will try hard again to try to do better. I am 44 and still have this stupid problem.

recluse · Posted: Sun Aug 24, 2008 10:21 am Post subject:

Actually my mind is never blank...More like it's full of random, messed up thoughts so i can't concentrate on normal conversation. I have obsessional thoughts all the time.

toothpastekisses · Posted: Sun Aug 24, 2008 4:01 pm Post subject:

Same, when I'm around people apart from my immediate family I either have no clarity in my thought cause I'm agonizing over how I'm being perceived, or my mind is completely blank and I feel lost, dizzy and thick. I often get words mixed up or just can't find the right words to describe something. I've come to realise though that EVERYBODY goes through this, socially phobic or not, but the problem is that we over-analyse and agonize over everything. I hate it, nobody ever really gets to see the real me...all they see is some silent, I dunno, simpleton, who can't string a coherent sentence together properly. On the internet however it's a different story...This just goes to show that we are more than capable of having mature and intellectual conversations

billy · Newbie User Joined: Jun 15, 2008 Posts: 73

Well i had the same experiences bud. I had this one friend from 9th grade i kept in touch with for 2 years or so. He started invited me out with his friends recently. The first 3 times i did not say a word throut the hours we hung out. Then they tried getting me to get into the convos by making me play argue with them. Then made convos with me if i didnt respond in time they would save conversation deaded which they thoguht was funny but hurt me alot. Then with his other set of friends(3 girls). We hung out twice and they asked if i hated them since i did not say a word. After wall that i havent gotten an invite in 3 months. sucks but i could use some convo skills too. I read reading books and watching tv shows helps make jokes and maintaining convos for you will have more knowledge/ways how to spin things to make it funny. But then again i missed out on high school all 4 years so being put into college now where people know whats cool and stuff i guess would help too. If only i had a clue, think im just rambling now a bit tired:(. guess i didnt explain it well but i tried

Seras · Newbie User Joined: Sep 02, 2008 Posts: 6

>.>
I'm like that too..
I dunno what to say..
so i just say random things...
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But it works for me.. Very Happy

loner_forever · Newbie User Joined: Aug 30, 2008 Posts: 14

WOW it seems like I could have written that post! I have the SAME exact problem. My mind freezes up and I don't know what to say. And when I do manage to say something it seems so out of balance to the conversation... like the chemistry is all completely wrong or something.

I HATE IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!