I'm a girl and I'm uncomfortable around women. I feel so inadequate around them all the time. If they are smart, or sweet, or kind, or gorgeous, or have a great sense of style, or amazing personality I envy them. Basically I find something enviable in every woman I meet... I even envy their flaws because they seem more natural than mine!
That is right on for me. It's not that I'm envious in a mean or hateful way. It's just the whole inadequacy thing. It's so intimidating. I feel like we both know that I'm way below them&there's not much of a point in trying. Then I don't talk to too many people because of this, and because I don't talk to people often, many people say that I come across snobby or intimidating. [HUGE shocker. Both of those are the farthest from the truth.] It's this endless cycle of suck.
&as for the opposite sex, this makes me sound incredibly lame, but I haven't even tried. Not a bit. &then I wonder why nobody approaches me or takes interest in me. [well, there's obviously a lot more reasons, but I'm well sure that my lack of trying contributes to it.]
lol sounds pretty funny when you think about it... But i have had girls approach me but i just push them back because i am too scared to be in a relationship.
I used to be HORRIFIED to speak to women, even though i grew up with 2 sisters and was raised by my mom most of my life. Well see, i had to deal with all of their bitching and PMS, and i was a shy kid and it only seemed like to me that when i would talk to them, they would PMS and yell and scream and complain, hence the fear of women began.
I thought of women as my enemy, i knew i had to find a mate in life sometime to start a family, but their was no way i wanted to deal with them so i avoided them for a long time, pretty much up until I was in 8th grade, and off and on in highshool I was still araid of them. I didnt really get over my fear of women until i seen that they arent that big of a threat to me.
My friends and i were daring, excitable and dangerous kids in my highschool years, (behind the scenes) so my friends were the girl crazy guys, they almost always had girls around them and they always flirted with every and any girl, even if she wasnt attractive, that was just their personality.
Years of being friends with these guys eventually rubbed off on me and I copyed them and learned how to be playful with girls and i got over the fear of women being complete you know whats all the time. I also realized that if you said the wrong words to a girl, you can easily piss her off... lol.
You would be surprised what you could say to a girl and not actually offend her, its not really what you say that matters, but how you say it. In my early days of copying my friends flirting skills, i noticed my responses just gave me blank stares and weird looks, becuase i wasnt delivering my playfulness with enough energy, or the wrong tone, or i was too serious and i didnt even realize it.
So trial and error eventually made me very comfortable around woman to the point where i could just talk to them in a serious conversation, or i could playfully tease them, or i could talk about mindless things like celeberates, dreams, and other miscelleneous information. I got to the point where i would walk up to any girl that looked intresting and i could confront her and get a giggle out of her, or just introduce myself and tell her she looks like an interesting person to talk to.
Hmm but then i got involved with marijauna and lost alot of my memory, which im slowly getting back, so recently i havent been out there on the dating scene, but you can bet your momma's betty crocket apron i will be once i get my life straghtened out again .
To all your guys out there, women may be intimidating to look at, but most of them are just as afraid of you as you are of them, and once u realize that women arent out there to turn you down, and that they are more fun to talk to then you think they are, you will progress in meeting girls and getting better at holding conversations... and most of the time girls dont really care what you talk about, they just like the attention.
Joined: May 03, 2005 Posts: 1229 Location: 20/m/England
Posted: Wed Sep 24, 2008 11:41 am Post subject:
I'm not scared of women, but like someone else said I haven't really tried. I'm embarrassed at my life, I'm not comfortable with myself let alone someone else. I have to sort myself out first, because right now I have nothing to give. I don't even want to.
Joined: Jun 04, 2008 Posts: 300 Location: The good red road
Posted: Wed Sep 24, 2008 3:09 pm Post subject:
I'm afraid of females too, even though I am one.
_________________ I want ecstasy. I am a neurotic — in the sense that I live in my world. I will not adjust myself to the world. I am adjusted to myself.
I know how this is it really is not cool to be shy to talk to a girl when you really want to just say hi but it just feels like there is so much pressure but it seems like everyone else can do it just fine.
Natural selection incarnate as Woman. How much harder can it get for a man? They may also be so impressionable by the media and society and other men (who are just jerks tbh). Natural selection makes life seem so primitive. It's better to just deal with messed up people through genocide. It's just evolution. Sexual selection, and the animal kingdom. Males fight other males for their piece of the pie that is sustenance of life. Women are so sweet looking and innocent looking, and then a man with huge muscles and a sadistic kind of look. Women are made to believe they are masochist. People are both, yet don't even know it. The media and hidden authorities continue to brainwash people keeping them ignorant. Spiritual cultures make sex to be a gateway to heaven. Men think having a woman is the ULTIMATE proof of their existence. Just, wtf...
oh yeah and it is ingrained into your physiology to have sex (as well as other things). if you dont you will have health dysfunction...\
how much harder can it get for men? we are disposable. We are the burden carriers. We take so much F-ing sh*t and we are supposed to deal with it like we are superman. We can't have feelings, we can't complain, we have to be perfect.
edit: We men are expected to initiate everything, yet girls are the ones who have to be protected and it's NOT wrong to want approval first before making a move. Women are always taking the rides, being submissive. Why does being Male have to = strength and women = weakness? Come on, we are supposed to be in on this together. I am not going to force myself on a woman. I am not going to get all in your face because you couldn't get the obvious hints I was giving. "They" make us think we are not men if we are not aggressive enough. Or they just want everything to be initiated by the man. Wtf we are trying to be good. We might let them know with subtle hints that we like them, we wont be overly direct, but it seems women find overly aggressiveness to be sexy because it represents Strength because we need it for absolute desperate survival (as if we have to be so desperate for survival) and men who are ok with polyamoury because it means they are "sexually liberated" because as a survivalist that means you are ok with having multiple partners to reproduce as many offspring as possible, yet leaving the woman alone to fend for herself as many in the animal kingdom may do..
I sound crazy. maybe I am going crazy. the world seems so wicked.
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