I think I'm going to go to the doctors about my issues...

PumpkinPie

...SP/ SA and depression. I can't live like this any more, what sort of life is this for us? I contacted NHS direct and they said that a GP will be sure to help me.
Do you think I will have to discuss the cause of my depression because I really don't want to talk about stuff like that, I just want to be fixed Sad

I haven't been out of the house for at least 6 years, don't have any friends, never been to a pub/ bar or even into town with people before. I look horrid, this is the basis of my problems...constant rejection adds to my mental anguish.

footballfan · Newbie User Joined: Dec 10, 2006 Posts: 66

You gotta talk about all your problems that you think give you dpression, if you don't want them to affect you anymore. And you might even find things that about yourself that you didn't realise give you depression.
good luck, hope you get what you want out of it.

Remus · Posted: Sat Sep 20, 2008 10:59 am Post subject:

there's no magic wand for SA/Depression, no magic pills, you have to fight your way through it, CBT is very helpful but at the end of the day YOU are the fix, it just takes a hell of alot of trial and error to find what works best and what works best for one person dose not exactly work for another. So you have to find your own kinda way.

It's bloody hard work too! I'm doing it and still struggling 20 years on but better than being back at square one in my teenage years and not knowing shit about how to help myself

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DannieCleo · Posted: Sat Sep 20, 2008 6:10 pm Post subject:

how well any kind of counselling/therapy works depends largley on how ready you are to get better and not live like this any more.

being sick of feeling depressed doesn't necessarily mean you are ready to do something about it. Lets be honest, everyone who is depressed is sick of being depressed!!

you have to have the fight in you. if you really feel that you do, then by all means visit your GP. Even if you don't, go anyway. Just be prepared for the process to take a little longer. If you don't really have the "fight" you will be more inclined to think its not working and quit, putting you back to square one.

Also, look into AvPD (avoidant personality disorder) I spent a year thinking i had SA, but AvPD was a much better fit. Since its discovery i have found the fight in me to get rid of it. I have been trying self imposed exposure therapy for the past couple of weeks and so far so good. I just have to remember not to push myself too hard or beat myself up when i don't go as far as i wanted. Most importantly i have to remember to celebrate my every little success.

I am going to give it another month and see how far i get with self help. If i really feel like i have made no progress (although i already seem to be) or if i feel i am slipping back, then i will visit my GP.

Good luck with whatever route you decide to take Very Happy

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Chod77 · Posted: Sat Sep 20, 2008 9:29 pm Post subject:

The more you tell them about yourself and the root of your problems the more they can understand and help you. It's not easy seeing a shrink but you can do it. If you go a couple times eventually you will be able to open up.

Good luck with everything.

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PumpkinPie · Posted: Sun Sep 21, 2008 10:41 pm Post subject:

I don't know if I want to go now...to be honest I'm not very well, I have an illness that cannot be cured so I don't think talking to a doctor about it will help. There is no resolution to the problem here so I really don't know...I thought maybe they could give me some pills or something, I guess not though.

Slothrop · Posted: Sun Sep 21, 2008 11:47 pm Post subject:

The biggest problem you face right now is in thinking it's hopeless. It isn't hopeless. You can get better.

Medication helps a lot, but it isn't magic. It can lift the shroud over your life and give you an idea of how much better things can be. It will take work on your part, work that is well worth the effort. Ask anyone that's taken the steps to get the help they need and they'll tell you they wish they had done it sooner.

There is nothing gained by waiting. Left untreated, it only gets worse. By now you should know that. I suspect most people here can look at their life and see that.

Therapy is nothing to be afraid of. I know that saying that doesn't make it less uncomfortable a thought, but it's the truth. A therapist is a person whose job it is to help you work out the stuff that's so uncomfortable for you to work out. In modern therapy it's mostly about the patterns of thinking that you experience every day, not whatever past demons might still haunt you. If you want to know more about what it's like, just ask.

(Be thankful you have NHS, too. People in the US and elsewhere frequently have no way of getting the care they need.)

PumpkinPie · Posted: Sun Sep 28, 2008 9:19 pm Post subject:

I changed my mind about talking to someone, even if I was free of depression all of my problems would still exist, some things just can't be changed and some people are just not meant to be.

Slothrop · Posted: Mon Sep 29, 2008 3:00 am Post subject:

PumpkinPie · Posted: Wed Oct 01, 2008 11:40 pm Post subject:

You're right, sometimes illnesses like this cloud your judgement so much that you can't think straight. I think seeking help would be a good idea, like you said, I have nothing to lose at the moment.

Thank you Surprised

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