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Kien
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PostPosted: Mon Jul 28, 2008 1:23 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Jura wrote:
by just putting on a bit of makeup, losing some weight, dressing nicely and acting feminine.

Not everyone likes make up on women. Razz Anyway, long straight nice hair is a good start.


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PostPosted: Mon Jul 28, 2008 4:00 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

TheWall wrote:
Jura wrote:

Women care about neither. They don't care about looks or personality. They are just looking for "confident" men (colloquially known among men as "asswipes"). They don't care about same interests or things you'd look for in a friend you just have to be an asshole and pussy's guaranteed.



I'm a girl and I don't give a fuck if a guy is confident or not. I want nothing to do with the asswipes and assholes.


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PostPosted: Mon Aug 18, 2008 10:37 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Jura wrote:
No, men care about both. Women care about neither. They don't care about looks or personality. They are just looking for "confident" men (colloquially known among men as "asswipes"). They don't care about same interests or things you'd look for in a friend you just have to be an asshole and pussy's guaranteed. Men, on the other hand, are less shallow, as although they may care about looks a bit more, they also care about a nice personality, and look for the same qualities in a girlfriend as in a regular close friend.

Wrong.

In fact this portion of the post is just berating one sex while embellishing the qualities of the other. Rolling Eyes

To say women care for neither personality or appearance is ridiculous even as a personal assumption. If I were to add to stigma - women do look for qualities like confidence and assertiveness; what you fail to acknowledge is that isn't all there is too it, there needs to be someone behind it - a human being. The "who" and the break down stems to individual preferences.

But, if we're going to generalize, then it's blatantly obvious men put priority on a woman's physical beauty before inner beauty. As long as she is attractive enough they are willing to compromise greatly on the "personality". Even guys in this vary thread acknowledged this. It's the concept behind landing a trophy wife. It's why creeps will approach young attractive females - and why this attention dies as a woman ages. Less shallow indeed <sarcasm>

Now, if we were to move away from these generalization - getting our heads out of the gutter and putting our own frustrations aside - we'd be able to see the bigger picture; in spite of these "assumptions" there are plenty of people who do not fall into them. The media seems to propagate them more than anything. There are men who do not fall into this stigma as much as there are women. As human beings we are individuals after all and think for ourselves.

To the original poster, it's normal to express such concerns. This world has many problems but I say stay true to who you are - perhaps then you'll be more likely to find a guy who will want you for you.

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PostPosted: Mon Sep 29, 2008 6:21 pm    Post subject: Re: will a guy ever like me Reply with quote

bulliedgurl wrote:
will a guy ever like me for who i am and not for what i look like on the outside


Yes, nice guys do. You've just gotta give them the chance.

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PostPosted: Thu Oct 02, 2008 5:34 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Kien wrote:
Jura wrote:
by just putting on a bit of makeup, losing some weight, dressing nicely and acting feminine.

Not everyone likes make up on women. Razz Anyway, long straight nice hair is a good start.


Oh, so all us curly-haired people are fudged basically then, are we!? Razz Rolling Eyes Laughing


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PostPosted: Fri Oct 03, 2008 11:47 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I've been around lots of really attractive people through work and they are as dull as dish water.

Lacking in personality is the true 'ugly'.

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PostPosted: Tue Oct 07, 2008 3:39 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

coriander1992 wrote:
Kien wrote:
Jura wrote:
by just putting on a bit of makeup, losing some weight, dressing nicely and acting feminine.

Not everyone likes make up on women. Razz Anyway, long straight nice hair is a good start.


Oh, so all us curly-haired people are fudged basically then, are we!? Razz Rolling Eyes Laughing

Yeah..wtf is with that? I guess there is no guy in my future... I refuse to straighten my hair everyday to please a guy. Plus, it wont stay straight anyway.


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PostPosted: Tue Oct 07, 2008 4:25 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

^ I feel your pain. Even if I get it straight it goes right back to curly. It doesn't help that I live in Florida and there is high humidity.


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PostPosted: Tue Oct 07, 2008 4:39 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

coriander1992 wrote:
Kien wrote:
Jura wrote:
by just putting on a bit of makeup, losing some weight, dressing nicely and acting feminine.

Not everyone likes make up on women. Razz Anyway, long straight nice hair is a good start.


Oh, so all us curly-haired people are fudged basically then, are we!? Razz Rolling Eyes Laughing


Speaking as a guy, I'd say that all guys have different tastes when it comes to what is physically attractive to us. Some guys love straight hair, some love curly. Some don't care one way or the other. Just like some guys prefer blondes, whereas some prefer brunettes... etc.

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