I can't stand people making condescending remarks like the above. Even though i can make a remark back... the hurt and negativity stays with me for some reason. I think its because i feel so embarassed and/or angry when it happens.
"In your situation, You shouldn't expect anything good in your life"
That's a terrible thing to say! Of course I don't know anything about you but there's always a chance for things to get good!
For me, it's not really a comment but I've been getting better recently and just today, at a class I've been attending for a month, we're only 4 students and only 1 could remember my name. That really brought me down today.
this implies A LOT-- first it implies i am vain/conceited and only care about looks.
2. it, more importantly, implies i have a bad personality.
i would seriously rather some one tell me something bad about the way i look over my personality any day... for some reason i take insults about my personality, well, personally...
but to make it worse, this was coming from a family member who has known me all my life. I think his "rationale" for saying this is to inform me my so-called reasons for not having a bf. its such a load of crap.
first of all, ive had other family members tell me i have a good personality. they could just be being nice...but that stupid a hole who said that other comment could just be being mean..
anyway, if anything i am just ANGRY/ pissed off he thinks this about me, and would have the nerve to say it. I know its not true but it still makes me PO'd that he supposedly believes it- you know?
"In your situation, You shouldn't expect anything good in your life"
seriously, change therapists. do it now.
i am amazed at how many downright BAD psychologists/psychiatrists there are out there. insensitive, cold, apathetic, un-empathetic (is that a word?)... it makes you wonder how people like that would even want to get into psychology in the first place?
i have been through more therapists than I can count (way more than 10) and they all sucked, but I finally found a good one. the same thing with my mom, she had to go through a bunch of idiots before she found a good one.
i've had one therapist offer this advice for my OCD/intrusive thoughts: "go for a walk" and "try to block out your thoughts"
another therapist, when I told him I have reoccuring nightmares and intrusive thoughts about my girlfriend dying, compared my relationship with my girlfriend to the relationship between himself and his desk.
he was like, "I love my desk. I use it to do work. But if I had to get rid of it, I would still be able to work."
And I was like, "Yeah, but my girlfriend's not a desk."
Seriously, he was a straight-up, braindead idiot!
So if I were you, I would change therapists and don't be afraid to keep changing therapists until you feel comfortable with the person and are satisfied that they understand you and are compassionate.
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