Newbie - noise anxiety and other things - help?!

deb · Newbie User Joined: Jun 23, 2008 Posts: 2

the problem is that we do eat with our mouths closed and as quietly as possible but if there is something crunchy that you can still hear then the problem with my son's hearing this escalates and i was just wondering whether any of you have actually found a solution. thanks

redconvoy · Newbie User Joined: Mar 07, 2008 Posts: 3

Geeze! I think then everything bothers him. It has to be something more deep rooted than your family chewing on crunchy stuff. I can't see how that's annoying. Could he chew silently on something that is crunchy??? If he is, he needs to tell the rest of us how.

I apologize if I was a bit rash, but I find people who eat with their mouths opened make me lose my appetite real fast. I learned that lesson when I was a kid from some one else's mother and my own family never learned that lesson from my grandparents down to my sister.

gggg · Newbie User Joined: Jul 17, 2008 Posts: 1

hi. it's a relief to know i'm not the only one suffering from this, but does anyone know of a cure? i'm at the end of my tether.

desperatehousewife · Newbie User Joined: Mar 26, 2008 Posts: 41

me too, the same.I can not stand all of them, chewing gum, biting nails, tv-music noise etc...

ucdom · Posted: Tue Aug 05, 2008 7:19 am Post subject:

I have to admit, this thread is quite satisfyingly funny, inasmuch that I feel less like a totallymisanthropic freak for hating the same things.

When I lived at home in my 20s I actually wanted to punch my Dad's face to a bloody pulp purely because he made the most frustrating noise when he ate, banging his teeth together.

These days I'm forced to travel by train a lot, and my god it drives me insane. There are times when I want to get up and scream at everyone to SHUT THE F*** UP, or keep still, stop fidgeting, and so so.

And I've been made physically sick by the sound of people's TVs or stereos through walls, forcing me to move. Worse, because I simply can't ask for it to be turned down..

The world these days is so noisy, which doesn't help.

creativegenius · Newbie User Joined: Oct 09, 2008 Posts: 2

i can agree with many of you. The noise that bothers me most is a group of people talking loudly in public. They get on my nerves! It's like they have no consideration for others. I want to move or leave immediately. I want to run away. I have considered getting ear plugs or something. I did see a movie tonight that I think all should view. It's starring Tim Robbins about a man fed up with noise, and especially car alarms. It was a great movie that had me cheering, quietly of course. It's called NOISE!

yulee · Newbie User Joined: Oct 07, 2008 Posts: 4 Location: UK

hmm this topic gets me thinking of the sound the trains make, i get very anxious of hearing it and the sound of the vacuum cleaner. Has anybody got the same?

Sheils · Newbie User Joined: Aug 07, 2008 Posts: 6

This is a really interesting thread - especially as so many people seem to be affected.

I have to say the only noise that really irritates me is hearing the sound of Tv or music through a wall.

Fortunately, I now live in a detached house so it is no longer an issue however in previous houses it used to really affect me especially if I was trying to sleep.

I would start to shake and have a really sick feeling in the pit of my stomach. Strangely, it would also cause me to have to visit the loo constantly, I think it was the nerves and anxiety but it was no fun when I was trying to get to sleep.

It only happened though if the noise was coming from another house. So if it was my partner downstairs with the TV on it was fine - in fact he could have it as loud as he wanted.

In other words, if I knew I was able to put a stop to the noise at any time, it didn't bother me.

So I realised, it wasn't the noise itself but the lack of control.

Kristine · Newbie User Joined: Dec 24, 2008 Posts: 1

I have the exact problem, and like everyone else, am so glad to hear I'm not the only one! I get very annoyed with random people in public, but it affects people whom I am closest with the most. I get so annoyed/frustrated with my mom, certain friends, and my husband. My husband clears his throat and coughs CONSTANTLY!!! It drives me nuts. We have an amazing marriage, besides my "noise problem." I need to get help, because I feel like its ruining my marriage.

I get so aggrivated with him, I cant stand being locked in a car with him or being in the same room sometimes. Like right now, he won't stop coughing and biting his lip (which makes a loud lip smacking noise) so I'm in our bedroom with a fan on in the background to try and block out the noises. It's awful. When this happens, my stomach gets tied in knots and I feel like I want to scream and punch something.

For years, I would always try to "blame" whoever was making a noise and tell them to stop or say "why do you eat so loud?" I would make the ones I love feel like they are worthless and like they are doing something wrong, where its my fault. The same things have happened to me when I had to work in an "office setting." The people around me would drive me crazy with chewing, paper, tapping, coughing, sniffing, etc. Sometimes, I just stare at people and give them a look of disgust, because I'm so annoyed and I don't know what else to do to make them stop.

I feel like I am trapped and living in a cave and can't get out. I travel a lot for my job, so am frequently on air planes. If I am walking to my seat and see that there is someone chewing their gum loud behind me or just "loud" in general, i will try to change my seat. So yes, you could say that all of this causes anxiety, because I am constantly thinking of it.

I find that going on walks or being in my house alone helps and gives me a boost for the day. But I need to get help or find a cure, because I'm sick of feeling this way and constantly having it on my mind. My husband says I just need to stop thinking about it and "change my thoughts." I wish it were that easy, and I'm a very strong person, but I've struggled from this for almost 20 years now and it keeps getting worse.

I'm going to enroll myself in counseling and PRAY a lot! I know God will heal me from this. Its just nice to know that I'm not the only crazy one with this problem. We shouldn't have to live like this. Smile

I think another problem is....is that I dwell on noises. I'm always "waiting" for my husband to clear his throat or cough, instead of trying to ignore it.
Do other people get sick to their stomachs and want to punch things?

me23xx · Newbie User Joined: Dec 30, 2008 Posts: 1