Joined: Aug 03, 2008 Posts: 9 Location: Sydney, NSW
Posted: Sun Aug 03, 2008 4:33 pm Post subject: Are we more sexually active than "normal" people?
I'm 21 male in Sydney.
I'm an extremely shy and asocial animal but I often hang out alone in strip-clubs and pubs where I meet women who give me satisfation to my fantasies in exchange of money ofcourse.. I'm a real evil devil as far as sex is concerned.
Do socio-phobic people share any characteristic of being highly sexually active, who have dirtiest kinky fetishes and often fantasize about new things in bed?
Let's see what you say how you evaluate yourself in context of sexual fantasies?
I think that they do as it's a way of being in control. It's called being a sex addict maybe you might want to google it and see what info you find. I'm sure people with SA would have different addictions at different times in their lives to help them cope with their life.
It could be you're just sexually frustrated or something, but maybe you really do have an addiction, if you're using sex as a way to escape from reality, or as a way to make yourself feel better or feel worthy of attention. Do you feel like it's interfering with your life?
It's weird, because I have always been sexually compulsive even from when I was a little kid (like around 7 years old). When I was first diagnosed with SP, I wondered if others with SP had the same sexual compulsiveness as I did, but I find for the most part this is not the case. They don't go hand in hand. When I first read about sex/love addiction, I thought to myself, "That's it. That's me they're describing."
A lot of people call it sex addiction, but others call it sex/love addiction which I feel is more appropriate, because it's not just the sex that dfrives people like us to compulsive behaviors, it's love or the idea of love. For me, the sexual attention from someone else makes me feel worthy and gratified, like I'm worth something. Of course this is only short-lived and then I am reminded of reality and the guilt and shame slowly creep into my head.
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Joined: Nov 23, 2004 Posts: 1756 Location: Manchester UK
Posted: Sun Nov 09, 2008 7:54 pm Post subject:
cant say I've every been desperate enough to risk my sexual health with a hooker, cant you just like crack one off to porn Stalker? its cheaper and safer lol
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Do you see your behavior as a result of your anxiety? i.e. do you do this because you find it difficult to form more socially acceptable relationships, as opposed to doing it because your sexual appetite is simply excessive?
I for one don't feel there is a connection, but for those whose anxiety revolves more around close personal relationships more than interactions with strangers, it seems like it would be a common coping strategy. I can imagine the appeal of the situation, where there is no real risk of rejection and no complicated demands on you socially. It allows you some of the fruits of a real relationship without having to open yourself up at all.
As for fetishism, I think that anyone with a lot of free time alone and an internet connection has a chance to develop any number of kinks and fetishes. There's nothing particularly wrong with that, but without the checks and balances of a partner it can turn into a preoccupation and obsession.
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