Friends

funnyman · Posted: Thu Apr 22, 2004 3:53 am Post subject: Friends

For along time now I've been without close friends. The type of friend that would call you up just to say hello or to see if you want to go out. Its at the point now that Im used to it, im used to spending a friday/saturday night at home by myself and when I do have to go out it can be a hassle or I should say confrounting. Anybody else feel like this? Shocked

Guest · Posted: Sun Apr 25, 2004 3:49 am Post subject:

Funnyman,

Yeah, I'm the same way. I hate it when I'm home alone cause I'm lonely but when I'm forced to go out with my coworkers to a bar or some outing I really want to go home. I stinks. It's like I can't win.

funnyman · Posted: Sun Apr 25, 2004 7:40 am Post subject:

I think I've fallen into a comfort zone.

andrea · Guest

it is very hard sometimes. i feel like i have no friends. i'm from europe and i live in nyc and i know that this is the way a lot of people feel. with social phobia i usually have to have a drink to calm down...therapy is way too expensive..and i have no motivation to do relaxation pratices..what for?
i get so lonely..i don't know how to change things..

neddy · Posted: Mon Apr 26, 2004 2:35 am Post subject:

Hello, I have got no friends, haven't had any for quite awhile. At first it didn't worry me too much but now I wish I had some to talk too, ring up and visit. I have been very anti social for years and have lived in isolation for the last 10 years and feel that isolating myself has made it worse and not better. I am slowly sorting myself out and guess that once I start to feel better about myself I will be able to go out and meet people.

crashmodem · Posted: Mon Apr 26, 2004 3:31 am Post subject:

Ya.. i don't have any friends either that i talk to face to face. I think that is why i am single, because of the fact that i have no friends face to face, and so they won't set me up with anyone.

I am just so tired and angry about being alone, but i know there isn't anything i can about it.

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mtango103 · Guest

yup, we sa's don't have any friends. I know i don't I think i scared em all away. Crying or Very sad

Orlando · Posted: Mon Apr 26, 2004 7:42 pm Post subject:

Hi, everybody.

I noticed that I know people but I have a tendency not to hang out with them. I go out once in a while. Usually, only once in a blue (or maybe pale green) moon. My Saturdays and Sundays are spent practicing guitar, doing homework, or watching TV. I noticed that my friends understand this. (I'm a homebody, a hermit, a sequestered monk, and a recluse.) They don't pressure me too much to come out (well, anymore)....They still talk to me so I guess its OK. I don't know. (You know what my parents are the same way. My mother like gardening and cooking. My father likes to take care of the lawn and carpentry) So I guess the fruit doesn't fall to far from the tree.

Andrea,
I remember a post that was set up a few weeks back. It was from Kim819. It is in this forum. It is entitled "Anyone from NY want to meet?". Maybe you could contact and hang out with her. It's a possiblity. You already have something in common (Social Phobia). You'll have a lot to talk about. It's just an idea.

Good luck.

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Tris · Posted: Tue Apr 27, 2004 3:13 am Post subject:

I have friends not to many but they dont call me to go out or anything anymore either, they know i wont and sometimes i wish they would make me even tho that would killl me, im just pulling myself both ways cuz i want to so bad but i feel like i cant...it would be awesome if we all just lived in the same city then we all would have TONS of friends..haha PIPE DREAM

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symbiosis · Posted: Tue Apr 27, 2004 4:43 am Post subject:

Hi Funnyman,

Great post - this is definately an issue for SPs....I've always struggled with the whole friendship thing. I have more friends now, but have spent many years when younger without, or with 1 not very good friend that didn't treat me very well.

I think we lose out because we don't tend to put ourselves 'out there' to meet people, and if we do, we don't take the all important first step in forming a friendship. I realised a few years ago that my friendships had ALL been instigated by the other person....about time I put my butt on the line...so have become more pro-active and it does work (some of the time!).

Isn't it shitty Funnyman and others, when you don't want to stay home, but it's too painful to go out - I know the feeling well (especially in the past)....it bl@@dy sucks!

Cheers, Symbiosis