Joined: Apr 11, 2005 Posts: 28 Location: Australia
Posted: Mon Apr 11, 2005 2:16 pm Post subject: I just found this site today.. and I'm grateful
Hi all,
New user here, and a little bit nervous about posting. My name is Flynt and I live in Melbourne Australia. I work full time, study via correspondance (because I'm too scared to actually go to a uni) and try to be 'real' in my day to day life. Part of being real is looking for strange and interesting things to do with my spare time. I'm a fire spinner and I have several facial peircings and dreadlocks.
I think perhaps I appreciate minority groups like fire spinners, or 'dread heads' because there are less of them? and they know what its like to be alienated or not accepted. Sometimes I think of my piercings and strange clothes as armour, it makes people approach me less often. Mostly I just try to find people I can relate to one on one because I do much better that way, and I am lucky to have some truly beautiful friends who care about me a lot (fire spinners really are lovely people!) alot of people though, dont believe I have a problem, because I get very scared around people and overcompensate (speak in a high pitched voice, be ridiculous and usually funny, or avoid talking all together) and they think I'm just a bit odd...
Does anyone else find themselves almost alienating themselves as a defensive tactic?? I really avoid going to parties or places where there arent 'safe' people, because in those situations I am practically frozen with fear...
Anyways, if anyone has any tips about dealing with these sort of things, or advice, I would love to hear it.
Yours in healing and hope,
xoxoxo
Flynt
_________________ Flynt (to friend) : Yes, that makes it much easier for me to molest you...
Flynt: ahem...
Flynt: I mean, Snuggle you...
Joined: Mar 31, 2005 Posts: 34 Location: Australia
Posted: Tue Apr 12, 2005 10:42 am Post subject:
Welcome aboard. Im from Adelaide.
Firespinning huh? How on earth did you get into that? Is it hard?
Damien
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Confident and sharp, witty and smart.
In this foggy haze I am staggering
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Joined: Apr 11, 2005 Posts: 28 Location: Australia
Posted: Tue Apr 12, 2005 9:01 pm Post subject:
its really fun actually and I practice alot, so not that hard I saw it one night when on holiday with a friend and I never forgot it, so the next year when I was pretty much housebound, I would go out in to the backyard and practice my ass off... Then one day my brother decided he wanted to learn too, and I'll never forget the first time we lit our poi on fire... It's an amazing feeling
Its a cool sport/art. You kind of get really enraptured in it, so its easy to forget you are surrounded by people, because it becomes just you and the flame... Makes it easier to cope when doing performance or anythign like that too!
_________________ Flynt (to friend) : Yes, that makes it much easier for me to molest you...
Flynt: ahem...
Flynt: I mean, Snuggle you...
Joined: Oct 16, 2004 Posts: 166 Location: Australia
Posted: Wed Apr 13, 2005 12:53 pm Post subject:
Hi Flynt,
I am from Melbourne too.
I belong to an anxiety organisations that organises social outings for people social anxiety. If you want more information check out: www.adavic.org
they also have a message board: http://critta.net/forums/index.php
Maybe joining a social group would help you with your social anxiety.
Joined: Apr 11, 2005 Posts: 28 Location: Australia
Posted: Thu Apr 14, 2005 11:00 am Post subject:
annie, I'm working up towards stuff like that... but thanks for the info xoxo
ppaul, nice foot! yeah, the high pitched thing really really bugs me, I hate it so much I do it alot around family reunions too, because I get nervous around my relatives, which is odd because I already know them...
um, yeah.
So on saturday night, I have been invited to a dancing thing (I dont have to dance, its like a dancing schools mid year ball or soemthing) and the person who invited me has bought me a ticket as well, so I cant really get out of it..... and I'm freaking out alittle because there's going to be lots of people and very few that I know. I've tried to make it as 'safe' as I can, I'm sitting between two people I know, having someone pick me up from the train station... but honestly I really really dont want to go now and I am so terrified...
not sure what to do
_________________ Flynt (to friend) : Yes, that makes it much easier for me to molest you...
Flynt: ahem...
Flynt: I mean, Snuggle you...
Joined: Apr 11, 2005 Posts: 28 Location: Australia
Posted: Tue Jun 28, 2005 2:59 am Post subject:
God I'm having a hard week.
Why is it in winter, just when the S.A.D. kicks in, that everything gets harder involving people too? I dont know if its SAD or SocPHob, or what, but this sucks utterly. I feel like screaming at people, but I'm just too scared of what anyone would think of me.
Had a hard situation the other night, went out with friends to see a band, was having a good night, they (being recently enamoured with each other) started ordering tequila slammers, and after doing the lemon and salt thing on each other, and then turned to me (now feeling very much like a third wheel) and told me i wasnt allowed to just drink my tequila normally, and they would help me pick someone up in the bar to lick salt off...
god. just wanted to die then and there .
Just not having a great week right now, I guess...
_________________ Flynt (to friend) : Yes, that makes it much easier for me to molest you...
Flynt: ahem...
Flynt: I mean, Snuggle you...
Joined: May 09, 2005 Posts: 1409 Location: United Kingdom
Posted: Tue Jun 28, 2005 10:33 am Post subject:
Hi Flynt (fan of the stone age perchance?)
I hope your friends didn't force you into anything. That must suck. People close to me know when to stop because I start making noises like Marge Simpson. Hmmmgggggg! Try it.
I was going to join the fire spinning society at my university but chickened out because I was a bit intimidated by all the weird and wonderful people! I was also scared that I would be awful at it. I can juggle 3 objects at a time at the most; this was achieved, like you, by spending an entire day in my back garden as a child practicing like mad.
Anyway, its strange for me to feel intimidated by these people because I used to do the whole 'dress-up as escapism' thing when I was younger. I also thought that being able to spin fire (or swallow it) would be a great performance piece I could do to show off in front of people instead of having to talk to them.
Joined: Apr 11, 2005 Posts: 28 Location: Australia
Posted: Sun Aug 07, 2005 11:12 pm Post subject:
oh dont feel stupid! not even a little bit! If you ever do want to join a spinning group over there, i know some really lovely people who could take you under their wing, so to speak. and wont judge you for what you can and cannot do... I'd be happy to put you in touch with some of them. It's been my experience that Spinners are the loveliest people, and while most of them wont understand your Soc Phob, you will have the common thread of spinning with them, and that usually helps bunches. Meeting them one at a time helps a lot too...
I havent been to spinning for a few weeks, winter slays me, makes it harder to get out, get to places on my own... But i'll be going this weekend for sure! Its monday today, and if I start psyching myself up now, i should make it...
oh, and Flynt is my real name actually
Hope everyone is having a good week! Stay strong, be brave...
_________________ Flynt (to friend) : Yes, that makes it much easier for me to molest you...
Flynt: ahem...
Flynt: I mean, Snuggle you...
Joined: Apr 11, 2005 Posts: 28 Location: Australia
Posted: Mon Aug 15, 2005 4:18 am Post subject:
today I am going to my first uni lecture, ever. Pretty nervous, trying not to freak out!
I'm making it as easy as possible, i've researched and rehearsed getting to the lecture, i know the lecturer personally, so that helps, I have a new notebook and two new pens to write with...
Wish me luck ppl, I fear I am going to need it. xoxoxox
Hope everyone elses' week is going well. xoxox
_________________ Flynt (to friend) : Yes, that makes it much easier for me to molest you...
Flynt: ahem...
Flynt: I mean, Snuggle you...
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I saw it one night when on holiday with a friend and I never forgot it, so the next year when I was pretty much housebound, I would go out in to the backyard and practice my ass off... Then one day my brother decided he wanted to learn too, and I'll never forget the first time we lit our poi on fire... It's an amazing feeling 
I do it alot around family reunions too, because I get nervous around my relatives, which is odd because I already know them...
