Embarassed about Sexuality

Red · Guest

Hello all,

I´m so happy to have found this site. It´s really wonderful to have a forum where we can support and help each other to live full and beautiful lives.

My social phobia revolves around being embarassed about sexuality. I either go very, very red (or intensely fear doing so) whenever 1) the topic arises in conversation, 2) I find someone attractive, or 3) I sense that others find me attractive.

My phobia has become a source of increased and obsessive preoccupation now that I am getting married. I have a wonderful finance, and I love him to pieces. However, I´m worried about blushing in front of and being attracted to other people. Any comments, suggestions, thoughts?

--Scarlett

eeeek · Guest

thats excellent that you've found someone! congratulations! I have the same problem... only much worse, because i go red even when i'm talking to one person about anything! with your problem: i think that you should spend more time with your fiance, just the two of you. focus on your partner instead of worrying about who finds you attractive. Whenever someone brings up the topic of your sexuality, answer in a clean cut and forward way and then direct a question at someone else so the focus isnt on you. well i hope that works! remember! you only live life once so enjoy it!

blueshyness · Posted: Sun May 02, 2004 2:16 pm Post subject:

Hi, i'm 20/male and have a similar problem to you. Problem is I don't think i'll ever find a girlfriend as I'm too scared to talk to them for fear of making a fool out of myself. (the blushing causes this)

Ulee2501 · Posted: Sun May 02, 2004 2:45 pm Post subject: get a girl

looks like you got a catch 22. think about what you can do to help it . Or find a girl with social phobia like i have through my sisters friend or anyone you can feel more comfortable with?

tucker25 · Guest

hi
i used to have this problem,ir really cripled me socially.like most forms of sp it is based on a fear of being percieved negatively by another.for some reason in ur head u may thinh u are sexually inferior.with me it was late physical development and also i was shy around girls and was afraid people would think iwas gay.u should work on ur inner thoughts-challenge them-u have nothing to be embarrased about in ur sexuality-alss dont hide ur blushing like i did it feeds the fear and makes it worse.contact me for more advice if u want

red dog · Guest

Hi,

My name is Julio and I live in Panama City, Central America. My problem is excesive blushing. Even if I'm going to tie my shoes, a blush may arise(even being alone). Of course, over the years this has caused me to avoid certain social situations and fight with anxiety every day, but I'm convinced the physical tendency to blush easily was first, not a symptom of social phobia in my case. In some other cases, social phobia started before the blushing. I've read many testimonial about social phobics and about blushers and even though it's related, it's not the same thing. Please visit http://www.esfbchannel.com/index.php or the web page of "the red mask foundation". If any of you would like to chat with me, my messenger is perro50@hotmail.com. God bless you all.

Guest · Posted: Fri May 07, 2004 9:14 pm Post subject:

Hi Red!

I had the same problem. What I did was talk more about it with other people. I still am still kinda of a prude but it doesn't embarrass me as much as more. I tell my friends, "Hey, this woman looks really attractive."but that doesn't mean I'm going to date her or will make attempts to date her in the future. To me it just means that I just I like the way the woman looks or acts around me.
I think it is natural to feel attracted to other people and to feel alittle excitement when other people find you attractive. There is nothing to feel guilty or ashamed about it. However, when you give that person you're number when you're in a long-term relationship, that's another thing......You know what I mean?

hann · Guest

i blush so bad it feels my head is going to set on fire, it happens everytime i speak to som1. even close friends and relatived. i can even just be thinking of an embarrassing situation and il go red even if im on my own. i hate it, no one seems to understand how much it effects my life, i just want to cry so much ...

Embarassed

xx

AnxiousRich · Posted: Thu Oct 14, 2004 10:01 am Post subject: Blushing

OMG, you are all suffering from the same problem as myself.
Before my medication, I would blush for no reason at all, especially around women. But, I have learnt something over the years.
If you can laugh off the blushing and the nerves and explain to the girl what is happening, they will usually understand, and usually feel flattered that you are being honest with them.
Any one got any other helpful tips?
Richard, England.

Amycakes05 · Posted: Mon Feb 21, 2005 3:41 am Post subject: Oh my gosh..........

I have the EXACT same problem. It takes over my entire life!!!! I dont even know what to say, or how to explain it, but i just HAD to post because this is what is taking over my life in a horrible way! And, im going through it RIGHT now with guys, and ex's who want to get back together. Im just not the same person anyone and i cant tell them why....... Crying or Very sad

~Amy