Telling someone about SP

Toad · Posted: Mon Apr 25, 2005 7:30 am Post subject: Telling someone about SP

I really hate constantly asking for help, but i searched for an answer to this and didn't really come up with a solution. Anyways, what I was wondering is how should I go about telling my friend I might have SP? I want to let him know so that maybe he can help me go see someone about this since I'm still not positive I have it, and I can't bring myself to see someone on my own. I've tried to sort of hint at it and get my friend to ask me a question, but whenever he asks the question I'm waiting for I freeze and can't tell him the truth. Probably because I'll feel like an idiot if I don't have SP and told him I thought I did, and if I do then I don't really want him seeing me differently...sort of a no win situation. Maybe you could let me know how you told people...might give me an idea. I dunno...any help is appreciated as always.

JoeRandomUser · Posted: Mon Apr 25, 2005 8:27 am Post subject:

Well dude, it sounds to me like you've just gotta pick an option and go with it. Yeah, I know, easier said than done, but I know from personal experience that getting stuck debating the options will get you nowhere. Fast. Think of it as 'analysis paralysis', you'll achieve nothing positive and whip yourself into a frenzy in the process.

Have you told anyone else about your SP? I personally don't think I'm ready to tell my friends, since I don't think it's their business to know; but I have told my family about the problem. I just blurted it out one day, and that was that. Wink

Maybe you could start by telling your family first, if you haven't done so already.

Vorphalack · Posted: Mon Apr 25, 2005 8:44 am Post subject:

Nobody will never understand your problems, not even your family. Only a person in the same situation as you will understand. That's my experience.

JoeRandomUser · Posted: Mon Apr 25, 2005 8:50 am Post subject:

Danfalc · Posted: Mon Apr 25, 2005 12:48 pm Post subject: Telling him

Toad, to be honest, if you want to tell ur mate, ur gonna have to just come out with it. I think it would be better if you told him. But i also know how difficult it is telling someone about having sa/sp.I havnt even told my family about it, Because i feel ashamed to say i have it.I do however find it a little easier to just say that i have really bad anxiety than to say i have a phobia.If he truley is ur friend he will try and understand.Anyways i wish you luck mate if you do decide to do it.

Chilling__Echo · Posted: Mon Apr 25, 2005 2:46 pm Post subject:

yeah, you should just tell him. chances are if he wasn't someone you felt like you could trust, you wouldn't be considering it. he probably is already wondering if something's up since you've been hinting at it. i've told two friends before when the situation deemed it to be necessary and i've not had any bad reactions. just be honest.

maggie · Posted: Mon Apr 25, 2005 9:25 pm Post subject:

I haven't told anyone, (except you guys). For me, it's not that I can't find the words, it's that the words won't come out. And plus, I'm afraid once I tell them, they will constantly be looking for the signs of this, and see stuff I am constantly trying to hide. Ridiculous, I know Shocked

Toad · Posted: Tue Apr 26, 2005 12:46 am Post subject:

JoeRandomUser - no...haven't told anyone but the people here, it's not that I don't want to tell someone, because I want help and I know I won't be able to get it on my own...cause I know me (unfortunately).
I just don't really feel confortable telling my parents about this mainly because I have to see them to much and I don't know if I could constantly deal with them asking me if I'm ok, which would probably happen. I feel more comfortable telling this friend, cause he's pretty much the only person I'm really close to, but I know he's probably not going to be able to help me and he would probably just tell my parents (don't get me wrong, I should trust him...but he probably cares to much about me and would think this is the right thing to do)...blah i hate this...it's amazing how hard it is to do such a simple thing.

Chilling__Echo · Posted: Tue Apr 26, 2005 3:08 am Post subject:

even if he did tell your parents, it sounds like you need a load off your shoulders!

JoeRandomUser · Posted: Tue Apr 26, 2005 6:50 am Post subject:

Yeah man, I'm hearing you. I know this stuff isn't easy to deal with, and I know that you're having a really tough time deciding whether or not to tell your mate what's going on with you. But that said, I can point out a recurring theme in your post that could well be the root of your problem here. You keep saying stuff like 'X will probably happen and Y will probably happen'.