Anger and Shyness

maggie · Posted: Tue Apr 26, 2005 9:21 pm Post subject:

Amalie, you said just what I feel Smile

!!... I always keep opinions to myself, even if I have valid advice or points. Always too shy or polite, or anxious to share my opinion, yet I always have pent up anger about injustice or because I am so frustrated Evil or Very Mad

Mathgan · Posted: Wed Apr 27, 2005 2:09 am Post subject: Anger etc.

Hi guy. Just know that you are normal - we all get happy and angry and ecstatic and pissed off and all of that. When we do that - we have an impact on the world - and others react to that according to their own senses. You may have triggered an anxiety in another - did you think of that? Just know that no-one ever does anything without their own (and in their mind) very good reasons.

Talk more any time.

With love

Mathgan

(p.s. anyone who knows the origin of my name wins an satsuma)

LittleMissScareAll · Expert User Joined: Jun 15, 2005 Posts: 716 Location: Hell

I'm the same way. I've never physically hurt anyone on purpose, but I get extremely angry, and I usually keep quiet about it. But in some cases I have let people know that they've pissed me off by making comments(in some cases I find the courage to do this and in other cases I can't)...but most usually I do keep it inside, and sometimes when I'm alone and very angry, I scream to let out my anger. Embarassed

Chilling__Echo · Posted: Thu Jun 16, 2005 2:46 am Post subject:

hye littlemissscareall, that's me too. i can't not make the comments b/c i feel like if they don't know that i'm mad then they'll walk all over me or not care so i can't get away with not saying something...

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ColdFury · Posted: Thu Jun 16, 2005 5:40 am Post subject:

I've got a whole lot of anger bottled up too. It leaks out sometimes..

Drella · Newbie User Joined: Jun 19, 2005 Posts: 11

yeah, I have anger problems, too. I get frustrated and upset really easily.

nerdgirl178 · Posted: Tue Jun 21, 2005 2:12 am Post subject:

I never actually lost my temper. I would never even think of yelling at someone or even think of hurting someones feelings. I am actually a very calm person and I do not let things get to me. I guess in some ways I do bottle up things but I never necessarily been so angry that I want to tear someone eyes out.

maggie · Posted: Tue Jun 21, 2005 2:26 am Post subject:

i get really really frustrated at work....hold it in...usually bottle things up till i have to have a good cry..at home Rolling Eyes

PhantomPod · Posted: Tue Jun 21, 2005 3:00 am Post subject:

I find that I get really angry and upset easily too.

I'm bad with driving directions, and yesterday we were visiting my grandparents, and my dad was just poking fun a bit and was saying how I was bad with directions. But then he told of a time that I got lost and called him, and I felt myself getting really upset and I actually got tears in my eyes and had to look down to the floor.

I get super angry and upset in class too. If I'm taking a test and there's ridiculously hard questions on it, I get SO angry and start gripping my pen really hard, like ready to break it in half, or I'd crumble the corner of the paper in my fist, or I'd get real upset that I can't figure out this hard question and I look down at my paper and find tears coming to my eyes. It's unreal. I seem to have a real anger problem.

And one time in class I was all set on trying to raise my hand and read aloud infront of the class as a step to try and get over my shyness, and the teacher asked for volunteers, so I raised my hand, and she saw my hand raised and nodded for me to start reading. But then this really loud girl who reads aloud in class ALL the time just spoke up without raising her hand and was like, "I'll read!" and just started right in, and I actually got so angry that I was able to speak up for myself and was like, "actually I was already going too." But then that got me so flustered and I felt my face heating up and my voice started shaking really bad, so I just had to stop and called on someone else to read.
I was really upset about the incident though, because I had read ahead in the book and had read these 3 paragraphes ahead of time, and was all prepared to try and read them outloud, and then because I was so upset and flustered over this incident, I could barely finish the first paragraph I had planned on and had to let someone else read them.

Gosh, that all makes it seem like I have real anger management problems. I've never been in a fight or hit or hurt anyone though (besides for my brother! lol)

redlady · Elite User Joined: Jul 08, 2005 Posts: 1958

I have this anger - i am very sensitive to the idea of injustice. I resent it when people are not what they should be - decent and good. I hate it when i am put in a situation where i have to defend myself. I find it hard to do and i hate being victimised - i hate them and myself at the same time.