Perfection

Loopy_Lil · Posted: Sun May 29, 2005 7:04 pm Post subject: Perfection

hi
Does anyone else here feel like they have to be perfect?
Everything I say and do has to be perfect. I don't do it if I don't think that I'll be perfect.
I feel so alone.
I have to be perfect so no one can see the real imperfect me.
thanks for your thoughts
Lil Embarassed

IceLad · Posted: Sun May 29, 2005 7:20 pm Post subject:

I certainly have to make myself look perfect before I even think about venturing out of the front door.

Scottish_Player · Posted: Sun May 29, 2005 7:36 pm Post subject:

I need things to be perfect and tidy,i dislike clutter and mess it drives me mad Rolling Eyes

BrownEyes · Posted: Sun May 29, 2005 7:55 pm Post subject: re:

I dont just feel I have to be perfect, I know I have to. The world doesnt like people who are not perfect, even if they pretend they do.

I hate the way I look. Its the number one reason I cannot stand anyone, even my family members looking at me.

Toad · Posted: Sun May 29, 2005 9:00 pm Post subject:

Yup everything I do must be perfect. Takes me forever to do stuff because of this, and it makes me stress out about everything.

Crimefish · Posted: Mon May 30, 2005 3:30 am Post subject:

Well, technically, I don't feel I have to be perfect, I feel pressured to be the same as everyone else. Society hates diversity.
I'm more comfortable with accepting my flaws than I used to be. I like drawing, so I got an account at an art community. You post your pictures and people comment/critique. I've slowly taught myself to be proud of any minor progress, instead of waiting to be perfect (which will never happen). I'm also better at taking criticism now. Smile

"You suck, Crimefish!" "Okay, you're entitled to your opinion... ya jackass."
Skin like a rhino, me.

GettingThere · Posted: Mon May 30, 2005 4:03 am Post subject:

We are a complex bunch and perfectionism is a part of the psyche as a general rule.

Another part is that most of us are procrastinators.

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esp · Posted: Mon May 30, 2005 4:24 am Post subject:

yeah, having to be perfect is why I avoid things. I'm afraid I'll say the wrong thing or do the wrong thing. I think its the consequences I'm afraid of like being teased or laughed at or rejected. But I think people would rather know the real you rather than some perfect person. Do you feel comfortable around a perfect person?

Loopy_Lil · Posted: Mon May 30, 2005 5:02 am Post subject:

thanks all for your thoughts
I am definately also a big time procrastinator
I avoid doing things until the last minute so that I have a reason for it not to be perfect
does anyone else do this?
I guess it's what people will think that makes me want to be perfect although I have always had unrealistic expectations of myself

I'm currently studying and never seem to manage to get my assignments in on time I actually failed two of my subjects last semester partly because of this and am on my way to failing this semesters subjects as well
Anyone with ideas on ways to get assignments done or at least started would be really helpful
thanks heaps

black_mamba · Posted: Mon May 30, 2005 9:18 am Post subject: