Anxiety when talking?

SuicidalChick · Posted: Thu Jun 30, 2005 6:44 pm Post subject: Anxiety when talking?

Does your anxiety get so bad to the point that you dont wanna talk?

When im nervous i will stutter and mix up my words and this is terribly embarassing for me. I always anticipate it happening,so it happens! Or sometimes my mind will blank and i dont know what to say,or i end up saying something completely stupid and regret it afterwards. Sometimes i just feel like giving up on talking!!!

Anyone else feel this way?

Danfalc · Posted: Thu Jun 30, 2005 7:01 pm Post subject:

Yeah im exactly the same, i find it so hard to speak sometimes,and like yourself when i do manage to open my mouth somthing stupid normaly comes out Laughing

I kinda stutter and mumble aswell and my voice comes out kinda feeble, so yeah i feel like its easier to keep my mouth shut so your not on your own with that. Smile

thugaveli · Posted: Thu Jun 30, 2005 7:35 pm Post subject:

I can relate you anticipate its going to happen
I try and make a conversation as short as possible and just agree with everythin lol
If you push yourself a little further into a conversation and think a bit more positive it does help in the long run as you become more confident
I know its hard to see but my speech and communication has really improved

maggie · Posted: Fri Jul 01, 2005 12:23 am Post subject:

SuicidalChick....that is me exactly....OMG..first of all, my voice is so quiet when it does come out....and seriously, i'm not stupid, but i must appear to be cause..sometimes the words is my sentence are jumbled...or just come out wrong...or, the worst..is when i can't respond at all Shocked

....one time this loud rude customer said to me..."YOU HAVE THE VOICE OF A QUIET LITTLE MOUSE..I CAN'T EVEN HEAR YOU!!"...it really upset me, but, of course, i said nothing to her.....but there was lots i wanted to say Twisted Evil

black_mamba · Posted: Fri Jul 01, 2005 6:54 am Post subject:

Last night me and my partner played a game of ask each other pointless questions for fun. One of the questions I asked him was what film/tv programme has influenced him the most...when he asked me it back I was stuttering my way through the words. I was stumbling over all the exciting stuff I wanted to express, but it just came out as an absolute mess.

That was really dissapointing; 1 because I wanted so badly to express myself and couldn't because all the focus was on me (he stared at me intensely the entire time) and 2 because my boyfriend is the only person I feel almost 100% comfortable around. Sad

Toad · Posted: Fri Jul 01, 2005 7:04 am Post subject:

maggie · Posted: Sun Jul 03, 2005 6:27 pm Post subject:

black_mamba...i find it very difficult to repeat myself if asked to....and i either can't spit the words out right, or they come out the exact same volume as the first time Rolling Eyes

TheLioness9345 · Posted: Sun Jul 03, 2005 11:25 pm Post subject:

Oh my gosh.. I know exactly what all of you are saying. I feel the exact same way. I don't like repeating myself, i can't find my words most of the time, I talk really quietly, i get my words mixed up...and it feels like all of it makes me sound stupid but i really am a smart person. but the thing is that I dunno if it's my anxiety that makes me do that... i just thought i had a speech problem. I guess not because if I'm just talking and not thinking about it i talk perfectly, and lately i've noticed that when i talk to someone i can not look them in the eyes it just makes me freeze up and make me soooo nervous...

DJ_Guvana · Posted: Mon Jul 04, 2005 10:04 pm Post subject:

This happens to me , i stumble or talk VERY fast.

Travis88 · Posted: Tue Jul 05, 2005 2:04 pm Post subject:

I avoid talking at all, i mumble or nod.