Friend turned against me

Neebo · Posted: Mon Jul 18, 2005 3:25 pm Post subject: Friend turned against me

I've been Socialphobic ever since I was in high school. In High school I had just one good friend,we'd known each other ever since we were in Infants school and we'd been very good friends for years and I used to go round to his house and vice/verse. However when we were in the third year of high school that is when my Socialphobia began to really get worse and my friend noticed that something was wrong. I wondered whether or not to tell him,then after a while I finally plucked up enough courage to do so. But then after telling him thats when he really changed and he really turned against me Sad

Basically he would take the piss out of me everyday and treated like me like shit. He could me all kinds of nasty names,some to bad that I won't reveal them. He turned into a real nasty bastard Mad

But it got worse and more personal not only did he make fun of my Socialphobia,but he also had a go at my features. You see I am of mixed race,my dad is Black African and mum is white. Being of African descent on my dads side, I have inherited the features that a black African has ie I have quite a broad,wide nose and he used to call me "flatnose" or "pancake nose". My ears are also a little bit on the big side too sohe would also "kindly" refer to me as "dumbo" or "jug ears". He was really nasty towards me Sad

Then if that wasn't enough as well as verbal abuse he would also be physically abusive. I remember once he used to go to Taekwondo lessons,and he karate style kicked me in the hip for virtually no reason at all I was just so shocked and upset at why he had turned like this Shocked

He would also gang up on me with other people as well. These day's I don't see him, haven't since high school and I hope I never see the bastard ever again for as long as I live Mad

His words have had a lasting effect on me though, I hate the way I look,I hate my nose and sticky out ears and wan't to get them "fixed" but can't afford plastic surgery. Has anyone else been through a similar experience or been treated badly by a "so called best friend"?

Chilling__Echo · Posted: Mon Jul 18, 2005 3:43 pm Post subject:

hi Neebo, that sounds pretty traumatic! i haven't had a friend turn on me, more i've had bad friends that lied to me or used me. actually i've had plenty of them and i had to "break things off" with them. almost like a breakup. i can't take a friend like that.

now i've found people that have great hearts. i told myself that i would surround myself with people that cared about themselves and me. apparently your friend had some self-esteem issues if he felt he had to prey on something so sensitive to you. many things actually.

i'm pure 100% white like wonder bread but i'm attracted to mixed guys or from a completely different race. i don't say this for hitting on you but rather there's alot of people out there that feel being mixed is a bad thing, but there's more that see it as a beautiful thing. be proud of who you are. don't let his comments get you down or make you feel ugly, or whatever he's attacking you with. HE's got some problems inside and has proved to not be a very supportive friend.

find some more people - and they won't come right away, i've been on a friend finding frenzy (haha) and they deffinately come when you least expect it. Cool

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black_mamba · Posted: Mon Jul 18, 2005 3:54 pm Post subject:

Chilling__Echo · Posted: Mon Jul 18, 2005 4:05 pm Post subject:

black_mamba · Posted: Mon Jul 18, 2005 4:24 pm Post subject:

(I knew I shouldn't have nicked chilling echo's medication)

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Jack7 · Posted: Mon Jul 18, 2005 6:14 pm Post subject:

My "best friend" at primary school and secondary school did the same to me. Tried to push me in front of a bus while my Mum was there once. I think he works in Tesco or something now, stacking shelves. I'm at the third best University in the country, so I don't really care. He was a t*t.

People have called me "Flatface" and said I look like someone hit me with a frying pan. Also, people have always made fun of me for my hair, throughout my life. I don't know why, there's nothing wrong with it. Everyone just seems to think I'm humorous somehow. They're all ugly idiots so I don't know how they can talk, but of course they all love each other so it's not like they're going to turn on each other, they take it out on people they don't know.

Kalima · Posted: Mon Jul 18, 2005 8:20 pm Post subject:

Jack7, you're really funny.

outside_looking_in · Posted: Mon Jul 18, 2005 10:48 pm Post subject:

Hi Neebo ... I'm attached, but just to say I also find mixed race guys very attractive! Very Happy

Also on my first day at primary school I was drawn to this sad looking girl sitting on her own ... she turned out to be spiteful and manipulative and plagued my first few years of school, though i suppose you could say she was never a friend in the first place. But I expected her to react to my overtures in a friendly way and so her nastiness was particularly hurtful.
Most of my nicknames were name-related but I was called Chinky for a while because my eyes narrowed when I laughed (don't everyone's?) but it stopped me laughing for the rest of school Embarassed

More fool me, eh! Laughing

SPECTACULAR · Posted: Tue Jul 19, 2005 6:46 am Post subject:

annie · Posted: Tue Jul 19, 2005 10:46 am Post subject:

Hi Neebo,

That 'so called friend' what a nasty piece of work he is. Mate you are better off without him. I know it is hard for you to forget the names he called you and the physical abuse he inflicted on you, but with time that will pass Smile

I tell you I am a girl or should I say a lady, but if anyone called me any names or tried to hit me, well they would get a mouthful from me and plus a fist, especially if they are attacking me because I have a psychological disorder. I believe that people like 'us' are quite intelligent, more smarter than the average person.
I believe I am a kind and giving person, however, anyone crosses me deliberately to hurt, they are gonners.
You have plenty of friends here neebo, let the jerk be a jerk - he probably has his own insecurities.
By the way I with Chilling I also am attracted to mixed guys or from a completely different race.

Take care

annie Smile