SA make me seem stuck up

black_mamba · Posted: Sat Jul 23, 2005 8:01 pm Post subject:

Marin thats a great point!

When someone never tells me what they get upto at the weekend or after work or uni I feel that they're avoiding mentioning it incase I want to join them? Maybe thats my SP speaking but I think being a little more open about stuff in general would give you a friendlier image for sure.

I find it hard to mention my hobbies or things I get upto for fear of no-one showing any interest (rejection basically!)...its a hard one to pull off. Confused

Carina33 · Posted: Sat Jul 23, 2005 8:39 pm Post subject:

Marin, I think that you make a good point about smiling. A lot of people I am close to talk to me about how miserable I look and how I never smile. I get complete strangers talking to me about how much I smile. Even yesterday at wrok, some guy that I just met asked me why I never smile. I never feel like I don't smile, and I feel like I do it enough.. but obviously not.

jeireijerfef · Posted: Sun Jul 24, 2005 9:45 pm Post subject: Practice makes perfect

I once dated a girl with social phobia and she had it worst than I did. She did come off kinda stuck up. I was a little better at making conversation and small talk. Looking back I realize that its hard to smile and be friendly when you are nervous. My advice would be to try to smile when you talk. And just practice with strangers. Afterall they are just strangers. Its not that big of a deal if you mess up in front of them. Go to church, different groups, different meetings. These are safe places to practice talking to people one on one. Hang in there it gets easy with practice.

Scottish_Player · Posted: Sun Jul 24, 2005 9:56 pm Post subject:

I was at my uncles house a few months ago, my cousin came in with her friend who i had never met before and i did what any good person with SP would do i made my excuse and left. In between them arriving and me leaving i made a little small talk which i was happy with because i had to consiously force myself to do it, then i found out from my cousin that her friend said i was stuck up and was i always like that.This for me was a surprise because i though i had done well it trying to make small talk.

You can please some people sometimes but you can't please all the people all the time. Rolling Eyes