gettting nervous when people r wanting to befriend you?

nicola_maire

ive got this thing where when people r trying to get closer to me, or tbey think we beter mates than we are, i get scared n act all of putting. i know y i do it, but anyone get that?

Sue · Posted: Sat Jul 30, 2005 9:04 pm Post subject:

are you scared of getting close to someone?

Scottish_Player · Posted: Sat Jul 30, 2005 9:22 pm Post subject:

I always put people off that want to be mates, for example through work i meet alot of decent people and i would love to be close mates with some of them but i always put them off for some reason i just wish i could let the barriers down and give it a try for once but i cant Rolling Eyes

redlady · Elite User Joined: Jul 08, 2005 Posts: 1958

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arlequin · Newbie User Joined: Jun 05, 2004 Posts: 79 Location: Spain

It's the same with me, many time. I think it's due to the fact that maybe I'm afraid to disappoint them when they get to know me better.

black_mamba · Posted: Sun Jul 31, 2005 10:52 am Post subject:

GettingThere · Posted: Sun Jul 31, 2005 11:15 am Post subject:

The golden rule is, SP symptoms increase the more that we want to impress.

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last2no · Posted: Sun Jul 31, 2005 8:09 pm Post subject:

yes I also put up barriers and then later beat myself up for it.

nicola_maire · Posted: Sun Jul 31, 2005 9:01 pm Post subject:

hey thx people.
i think even in my personality im quite reserved, i save the maddness for when i need it, or the 'apropiate' moment. im not sure why i hold back so much, dont get me wrong tho, ive got alot better than i was, i can actualy join in on jokes now, and properly get overly hystericaly laughing, so ive come a long way for some of those who ahve read my posts when i first came here.... jesus i was self concious. but i sapose some things we sp people dont accept is, relationships take a long time to build, i gues we see people getting on well at work, and think o y dont we get on that well, then i remember, ive only been there a month.... and the stage im at now is alot better.
as well is im from south england, out side london towns....n i live in milton keynes now, modern new city, as u lot no, peoppe form differnt area's genraly r a lil differnt, so that counts for something.
ok im blabbering now,lol.
thx again guys, nice to know, and sad i sapose that others agree

LittleMissScareAll · Expert User Joined: Jun 15, 2005 Posts: 716 Location: Hell

nope, cause nobody's tried to befriend me since elementary school.