Blushing

MissB · Posted: Sun Jul 31, 2005 8:39 pm Post subject: blushing

i have recently been giving relaxation treatments a try and they have helped somewhat but now and again i feel flustered for no reason at all, i believe avoiding wheat products help and also nettle tea.

anneley · Posted: Fri Aug 05, 2005 7:32 pm Post subject:

I can relate to you all. I blush numerous times a day, and I can even blush when I'm on the phone. Rolling Eyes

Strangely, large crowds bother me slightly less than 1 on 1 contacts, and hugging, kissing when greeting somebody will make me blush for sure....
Oh, and really... what I hate the most is how some men misinterpret my blushing... no, it's NOT them, it's me! Evil or Very Mad

wistful_dementia · Intermediate User Joined: Sep 28, 2004 Posts: 173

I blush too. It's also very embarrassing for me also. My situations is slightly different. I'm a male and when I blush the females look at me with contempt. Sometimes, I may blush just because of an embarrassing situation or maybe I felt that I have just said something stupid; other times I may actually be attracted to the person. When a lady who I am attracted towards looks at me with contempt... like 'oh my god, there goes another guy about to flirt, etc." I feel even more embarrassed and ashamed. I can't help who I am attracted to and when I blush and that makes approaching an attractive woman that much more embarrassing and anxiety provoking. It's not like I am going to try to pick them up.. I've only managed to ask one girl out in my life.

With men it's not too much better. If I am embarrassed or speaking about an emotional topic (not always easy when taking psychology courses, trying to make a new friend, or carry on an intelligent conversation) they tend to think that I am angry.... 99.9% of the time I'm far from being angry. Ah well, antidepressants worked well with blushing for me, but I just do not like the side effects. Ah, well... I will survive and adapt eventually.. Very Happy

dtoxxx · Newbie User Joined: Aug 22, 2005 Posts: 2

I have had a blushing/anxiety problem for at least the last 10 years, i am now 21. I remember kids at school noticing and pointing, whispering to the person next to them and glancing at me. I remember walking around the school with my head to the floor just so noone would notice me.

As I got older it became more of a problem, and I worked myself into depression and mild psychosis.

I spent around a year without barely leaving the house, going through several medications. I eventually gave myself a kick up the ass and did a bit of work for a design agency I worked for in the past. This didnt start of so well, and the anxiety was still clear and present, I often found myself crying in the toilets through frustration and humiliation.

Cutting a long sory short, I became determined to conquer my anxiety and recently have been making very positive progress. If you havent heard of it already COGNITIVE BEHAVIOR THEROPY is very benefitial. I was on a waiting list for a year and a bit, and was also very sceptical. CBT is all about the way you think, and the way you think is pinnacle to this problem. If you think "shit, i bet i'll blush" you are bound to, if you plan an escape route to a situation, all youre doing is heightening the anxiety.

I have been employed full time at this company as a graphic designer and have recently begun meeting with clients, which would have been un-thinkable a year ago!

All i want to do now is help people get through the same sort of thing, especially younger people. I am still just beginning to sort the problem out myself, but I am pretty determined.

Ive never written so much about myself, sorry to be boring, but this post mite give someone some ideas, or hope.

take care
pm me if you want to talk

WalkOnCobblestoneCurfews · Posted: Wed Aug 24, 2005 3:30 am Post subject:

Hey
I thought it was interesting that you found relief throught CBT. I have done alot of reading on alternatives to drug use and alot has been shot down. But I also know that those who take the prescriptions R not happy. There will always be negative side effect to an anatural drug (I know this because I am cleaning up). I am happy that you have had positive strides towards relief without drug use. Keep at man and be there for others b/c it does become testing on your will power.

WalkOnCobblestoneCurfews · Posted: Wed Aug 24, 2005 3:31 am Post subject:

Hey
I thought it was interesting that you found relief throught CBT. I have done alot of reading on alternatives to drug use and alot has been shot down. But I also know that those who take the prescriptions R not happy. There will always be negative side effect to an anatural drug (I know this because I am cleaning up). I am happy that you have had positive strides towards relief without drug use. Keep at man and be there for others b/c it does become testing on your will power.

dtoxxx · Newbie User Joined: Aug 22, 2005 Posts: 2

i dont think drugs were ever a cure, but just to help you help yourself. Self motivation, difficult as it is in this situation, is pinnacle to getting over anxiety, and theropy definantly helps.

Because it had been going on so long, I just thought my anxiety and social phobia was part of who I am, but it really isnt.

Luv me x

powermetalniki · Newbie User Joined: Nov 10, 2005 Posts: 3

this may seem bizzare, but at times I blush like crazy just imagining an embarassing situation while alone.

to say the least i am glad to see others that also experience blushing as the biggest inconvienience of their SA who are offering advice and tips that they themselves have benefitted from.

i just wish we didn't have to wear those silly aprons at work. otherwise the thin layer of my teeshirt would keep my body temperature lower and would probably be just enough to prevent a lot of my random blushing incodents! Embarassed

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exinous · Newbie User Joined: Mar 03, 2006 Posts: 2

This was my main problem too i use to blush anywhere especially in situations where there were lots of people around me at high school i use to blush in the middle of class too and people would make fun of me i did CBT 6 months ago and he did this exercise where he videoed me. I thought it would be really horrible but turns out it really helps you realise when you blush its not that bad and that other people do it to that its a normal thing your body does when you hot or in flight or fight. Its funny when you learn why your body does it its not that bad like normal. Embarassed

Chihiro · Posted: Fri Mar 03, 2006 12:12 pm Post subject:

Blushing is abig prob for me too!
esp when i'm thinking about it and thinking 'no don't blush, don't blush" and like clock work there it is.

bah! pplz always look uncomfortable around me, and then look away.