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Posted: Fri Aug 19, 2005 12:27 am Post subject: catch 22 of socialphobia
i keep on thinking about SP and how it works. for me my main problem is that i feel so goddam embarassed about myself and my life, that it prevents me making friends and getting a life in the first place, which would cure my SP. if that makes any sense. its like a catch 22 of SA.
i would be having a great conversation, but it can never be personal about myself or my life, because 1) i have no life 2) i have no friends. thus it prevents me getting close to anyone.
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Posted: Fri Aug 19, 2005 12:44 am Post subject:
Yes, I know what you are talking about. I do not think I have any friends that I can say are really close and make me feel like I can be myself around them. I noticed that a lot of people may like me, but when it comes to getting closer, they notice my anxiety and ackwardness, which makes them feel uneasy, and therefore not willing to hang around me for too long. It happens to me with almost everyone. It took me years to feel at ease with my hubby. I think my hubby is the only person I can be relaxed around. In a way ti is good, I guess. At least I managed to feel okay around one person. This probably means that if I am able to do this with him I am also able to do this with others. Well, I can only take one step at a time. The good thing is that now I am able to work and my next step is to work into no giving an f---- about how others may see me, whether they like me, or such. This is probably the key to overcoming social phobia. If you do not care about what others see in you, than you can just be yourself and in exchange people will like you.
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Posted: Fri Aug 19, 2005 1:14 am Post subject: Re: catch 22 of socialphobia
lonesomeboy wrote:
i keep on thinking about SP and how it works. for me my main problem is that i feel so goddam embarassed about myself and my life, that it prevents me making friends and getting a life in the first place, which would cure my SP. if that makes any sense. its like a catch 22 of SA.
i would be having a great conversation, but it can never be personal about myself or my life, because 1) i have no life 2) i have no friends. thus it prevents me getting close to anyone.
how depressing is that.
well ill tell you how mine worked, through learning about sin i figured mine out
well for one i had a demonic spirit, but that only made the sin harder to stop, my social phobia was
worrying
lil to no love for people (when you have love, you can still conversate without needing too much topics)
Pride (thinking things such as funny jokes or being good at conversation makes you a better person)
Leaning on people
self conciousness (we go back to the love, we look at ourselves as opposed to others)
Lusting after praise
we were made to look outward and love, and not look inward an think about our own wants
this is what i learned through God.....God takes my lonliness, my social phobia, my hate for myself, my depression
PRAISE THE HOLY ONE!!!!!!!! AMEN
i really dont know how others social phobia is, but that was mine, and a demonic spirit made it impossible for me to stop doing those things, but in Christ i have the strength
Yes, I know what you are talking about. I do not think I have any friends that I can say are really close and make me feel like I can be myself around them. I noticed that a lot of people may like me, but when it comes to getting closer, they notice my anxiety and ackwardness, which makes them feel uneasy, and therefore not willing to hang around me for too long. It happens to me with almost everyone. It took me years to feel at ease with my hubby. I think my hubby is the only person I can be relaxed around. In a way ti is good, I guess. At least I managed to feel okay around one person. This probably means that if I am able to do this with him I am also able to do this with others. Well, I can only take one step at a time. The good thing is that now I am able to work and my next step is to work into no giving an f---- about how others may see me, whether they like me, or such. This is probably the key to overcoming social phobia. If you do not care about what others see in you, than you can just be yourself and in exchange people will like you.
no im sure you love your hubby.....like Jesus said "where theres love, there is no fear"
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In a way ti is good, I guess. At least I managed to feel okay around one person. This probably means that if I am able to do this with him I am also able to do this with others. Well, I can only take one step at a time. The good thing is that now I am able to work and my next step is to work into no giving an f---- about how others may see me, whether they like me, or such. This is probably the key to overcoming social phobia. If you do not care about what others see in you, than you can just be yourself and in exchange people will like you. 
