Posted: Sun Jul 10, 2005 10:48 pm Post subject: whats the point in going out!
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i have got to a point that when i actually go out to a party and people start talking to me my mind goes blank and all i can think about is i dont know what to say, this makes me uncomfortable which then makes other people around me uncomfortable which makes me more uncomfortable and it just repeats itself, then i think people think im boring and i think that because i dont know what to say its like my personality is been erased before everybodys eyes, then i'll excuse myself and go have a smoke in the toilet and get even more feed up, its a visious circle im in, and i really want to get out of it.
Joined: Jun 09, 2005 Posts: 334 Location: United Kingdom
Posted: Mon Jul 11, 2005 10:06 am Post subject:
I often talk really fast in a mumbly breathless kind of way.
I'm trying to make a concious effort to slow down and take my time over what I say.
After all...I don't speak very often....so I may as well make the most of it when I do
Joined: Jun 20, 2005 Posts: 10 Location: Philippines
Posted: Mon Jul 11, 2005 10:10 am Post subject:
yeah people i dont know what will i say next and i cant even look at the person to whom im talking with ...and this ...i feel uncomfortable with my coworkers eventhough we've been coworkers for a long time isnt it strange?anybody with the same experience ?please let me know
Joined: Aug 07, 2005 Posts: 120 Location: Netherlands
Posted: Fri Aug 19, 2005 10:52 am Post subject:
besides my problem with speaking, I also have bad ears and i have hearing aids, and mostly i dont even dare to say What?, because im afraid people lose their patient with me (wich happens sometimes) because the have to repeat so much what they say whenn they are talking to me, so i mostly pretend like i heard it and give a wrong answer wich is even more stupid and embarrassing..
I know this exact feeling. I often mumble or pronounce things wrong, making me feel really stupid. Sometimes, I'll say something too quietly, and I suddenly lose all confidence. Even if someone pressures me to repeat myeself, I'll point blank refuse to say it. I'll think they must have thought what I said was too stupid, and that's why they thought they misheard it. Either that, or someone will put me on the spot, waiting for me to say something witty or interesting... and I'll just blank out and smile stupidly, watching the smile drain out of their face... it's unbearable sometimes.
...Also does anyone else find it very difficult to repeat themselves if someone complains that they can't hear you?
Yeah...I do. I get real mad when people ask me to repeat myself...just want to shout it...dunno why. Funny thing is I always make people repeat what they said cause normally I'm to busy worring about stuff around me and not really paying attention, or because it gives me more time to think up my response.
Sheesh! I get frustrated when people ask me to repeat myself too! *HUGE SIGH* Usually I stare at them blankly and wish they would go away!
And I do the same thing, ask the person to repeat themself so I have time to think of something, ANYTHING! HAHA! Also, there's times when I'm so focused on what my response will be, that I totally forget what the person was saying in the first place! Yup, it's a vicious cycle...
stuttering my way through the words. I was stumbling over all the exciting stuff I wanted to express, but it just came out as an absolute mess.
I do that too and i hate it. I have done it during a presentation once - i just rambled on with the most nonsensical crap - everything i needed was in my head but it was just beyond me to speak it in a coherant manner. The sympathetic look i got from the lecturer almost made me cry.
Needless to say i was grateful he did not ask me to clarify.
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