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LeapFrog
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I have this really weird issue with eye-contact. It is actually physically irritating (or so it seems) to maintain eye contact with someone for a long duration. If I do, my eyes start to burn (I do blink, of course). Maybe it's just because I am an audio-learner, or paranoid about what they may think I look like, or both. Bah... Anyone else have this problem?
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jerim
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| Posted: Tue Sep 27, 2005 8:11 am Post subject: |
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me too.. i cant eye-contact with stranger ,i wil react strangely or look away ....
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Boundless
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| Posted: Tue Sep 27, 2005 8:14 am Post subject: |
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I cant maintain eye contact for more than a few seconds,even if i know the person well,it gets better as your confidence increases (so im told).
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lawyerguy
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| Posted: Tue Sep 27, 2005 8:32 am Post subject: |
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I'm really bad with eye contact as well. I try to make eye contact with people I'm talking with but I always get so nervous I can't help but look away.
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strawberry
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| Posted: Tue Sep 27, 2005 1:40 pm Post subject: |
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people tell me I blink a lot. does that have anything to do with hating maintaining eye contact? I try to do it but always quickly look away again.
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black_mamba
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| Posted: Tue Sep 27, 2005 2:04 pm Post subject: Re: Eye contact |
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| LeapFrog wrote: | | I have this really weird issue with eye-contact. It is actually physically irritating (or so it seems) to maintain eye contact with someone for a long duration. If I do, my eyes start to burn (I do blink, of course). |
Ja ja ja I get this too. The only people I can maintain eye contact with I have known for over 10 years at least! Yet with new people I physically get irritated if I stare into their eyes for too long.
I can look into someone's eyes for about 2 seconds then absolutely must look away. I worry that constant eye-contact will look like obsessive staring, which it isn't - I'm sure its good socially, but I know a few people who make little eye contact (like me) and still make effective points by talking quite slowly and purposefully.
So it's not the be all and end all, but it can be useful in staring competitions. Check me out --> 
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young
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I've been told. when uncomfortable making eye contact with someone. Look at the bridge of their nose. They won't notice the difference.
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LeapFrog
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| Posted: Wed Sep 28, 2005 2:31 am Post subject: |
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| young wrote: | | I've been told. when uncomfortable making eye contact with someone. Look at the bridge of their nose. They won't notice the difference. |
Oh that's a cool tip. 
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young
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| Posted: Wed Sep 28, 2005 2:33 am Post subject: |
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And if your giving say a speach, or you're talking in front of a group of people. Look at the tops of their heads. That also gives the illusion of making eye contact. As rough as it is to do. I don't like it myself, any more than I have to. It needs to be done to make your speaches more powerfull. And it helps to get your point across. For your eyes are great conveyors of emotion.
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coolguy2005
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Young.
That's a very good tip. I remember hearing it from my highschool teachers. I've never put it into practice, but I will start doing so.
| young wrote: | | I've been told. when uncomfortable making eye contact with someone. Look at the bridge of their nose. They won't notice the difference. |
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