Are you assertive?

4myself · Posted: Wed Sep 28, 2005 2:34 am Post subject: Are you assertive?

I am just about to jump off this forum and go and look up some info about assertiveness. I am wondering if anyone thinks they are assertive or passive or agressive?. I am passive aggressive, but I would love to be assertive.

young · Expert User Joined: Sep 23, 2005 Posts: 602

jumping off this forum could get you hurt. Just walk away, or skip, but keep the jumping to a minimum. Cool

As for me i'm assertive when it's something i want. Though I have been known to let people walk all over me. I'm working on that. Mainly i try and please everyone, while leaving myself last.

lawyerguy · Posted: Wed Sep 28, 2005 8:15 am Post subject:

I'm a passive person in general but I can be assertive when I have to be. Obviously for my job I have to be assertive. I'm more comfortable being assertive for other people than for myself.

maggie · Posted: Wed Sep 28, 2005 6:21 pm Post subject:

i am very passive..esp. at work....and it's frustrating, cause even if i have a valid point or argument..i usually keep it to myself....and then i brood about it later...pissed off about the way things turned out Evil or Very Mad

magda74 · Intermediate User Joined: Sep 25, 2005 Posts: 129

[quote="maggie"]i am very passive..esp. at work....and it's frustrating, cause even if i have a valid point or argument..i usually keep it to myself....and then i brood about it later...pissed off about the way things turned out Evil or Very Mad

Really relate to that. Definitely passive-aggressive. I have a really hard time being able to defend my viewpoint. I find some people really take advantage when they figure that out about me and talk right over me or do something totally dismissive. And what do i do? Replay it over and over in my head till my ears are steaming. Then avoid that person for awhile.(' Rolling Eyes

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I've really got to work on that.

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maggie · Posted: Wed Sep 28, 2005 9:16 pm Post subject:

hey magda74...i know just what you mean about replaying it over and over in your head Mad

..i do the same thing....so, not only does it make me feel like a total idiot at the time, but later i obsess about it and always imagine the way i should have dealt with situation.. Rolling Eyes

magda74 · Intermediate User Joined: Sep 25, 2005 Posts: 129

hi Maggie, (just realized you're a fellow Canuck)

yeah, i obsess too, like thinking in a loop. not even sure if i avoid the person later becuz i'm mad or just really embarrassed.

by the way, that picture makes me laugh everytime. am i seeing that right, is that a carved apple helmet on a cat? ur cat?
sooo cute

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magda74 · Intermediate User Joined: Sep 25, 2005 Posts: 129

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') i just can't stand rude mushy avocadoes. good for dips though!

glad to hear you found the balance, i'm working on that. really i think it's unfair to other people as well if u don't let them know where you're coming from. gotta luv that 20/20 vision.

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ColdAsIce · Posted: Thu Sep 29, 2005 10:54 am Post subject:

Not at all.... Crying or Very sad

I've always been a door mat.... Embarassed