gettting nervous when people r wanting to befriend you?

Boundless · Expert User Joined: Aug 20, 2005 Posts: 615 Location: UK

I dont make friends because they dont like who i really am,and im not putting on an act just to gain friends,i cant even talk to people they allways have to talk to me,and i usualy try distance my self.Guess i just feel im better alone or something.

lonesomeboy · Posted: Sat Sep 03, 2005 4:28 am Post subject:

i push people away. i act arrogant and up myself a bit as a defence mechanism to prevent ppl getting close to me. I cant help it. I try to be friendly but i been hurt in the past. i promised myself never again. now iam all alone.

earth200aleg · Newbie User Joined: Sep 30, 2005 Posts: 2

i also get freaked out when somone trys to befreind me i get the thought they trying to use me

sillsbs · Posted: Wed Oct 05, 2005 12:01 pm Post subject:

Yeah that happends to me also...especially now that I got a new job a couple of months ago...So i'm meeting new ppl. It's hard to let them in and talk to them. It's been forever it seems since i've had friends and talked to them. Its just hard to learn to be social...when as a kid I wasn't at all. I was terribly shy...my parents shy as well. So I never learned. And when I try to be...it always comes out as if I'm rude or mean and I don't intend it. I think I'm a nice person i just don't know how to act especially with men. I'm so scared about that...that I don't even try.

Cork_Tree · Posted: Thu Nov 24, 2005 11:57 am Post subject:

I get like that, when i was at school boys used to ask me out and if i said yes they would start laughing because they were only joking, since then whenever someone starts being friendly i clam up and normally walk away. Its ashame because i really want to meet new people. Crying or Very sad

allanboy · Intermediate User Joined: Aug 20, 2005 Posts: 297

Holy shit Cork tree, thats terrible. Those kids deserve a nice knife to the throat.

Cork_Tree · Posted: Thu Nov 24, 2005 12:19 pm Post subject:

Thats very kind of you allanboy but i dont think its necessary, i tried to rise above it and i think i did ok. Smile

allanboy · Intermediate User Joined: Aug 20, 2005 Posts: 297

kiwi · Posted: Mon Nov 28, 2005 9:28 am Post subject:

I only seem to be able to form superficial friendships, usually with people I work with. I never have deep and meaningful conversations with anyone, at best it's the joking, exchanging-banter kind of friendship. I tend to get a bit worried if I become too friendly with someone in case they start inviting me to social events (parties etc) involving their friends.

lostboi · Intermediate User Joined: Nov 19, 2005 Posts: 137

I have a hard time getting close to people because that's when they can hurt you. I feel like if I try to get close they will find out how vulnerable I am and take advantage of me. or when they find out what I'm really like they will just stop talking to me. It sucks! Confused