Joined: Jun 03, 2004 Posts: 6 Location: United Kingdom
Posted: Thu Jun 03, 2004 9:52 pm Post subject: Re: work
It is so hard i swear, i have recently lost all my confidence that i has, however i have been shy since i can remember. i felt recently, when i had to get a job that i have to do something easy! i have always done office work and this has been so hard to talk to people. I have got a job in a supermarket and dont start till next week, i am so nervous.
I have a job, so if I have it everybody can do it too. What to do to get over shyness? It's a question to make a lot of interviews so you get more and more confident. One day you'll be lucky, you'll see.
I agree with arlequin...the best way to overcome shyness while finding a job is going through alot of interviews. I find it one of the toughest things because I feel people judging me in any normal conversation let alone one where that judging is basically the whole premise.
I just went through a few of these and found myself so nervous I would pace in the parking lot outside before the interview then completely blank, mumble, and stumble through most of the questions asked. The whole time I found myself asking in my head, "what is this person thinking about me right now?" followed by all the negative things that they could possibly come up with. After awhile you have to say, "let them think what they want to, I just have to answer truthfully."
Hope that helps, finding a job is a hard process but if you make any effort it will come. I even got the job where I didn't say anything but uhhhh, for the first couple full minutes of the interview!!
Before you get too far into the initial inverview questions, you may want to say that you are very quiet around people. Leave it at that. There are employers out there who will not look down upon you for being quiet. Somehow I got hired and I am definitely not a people person. I used to work in a store, and I found that you need to MOVE THE CUSTOMERS ALONG. If you are at a cash register, ring them up quickly to get them out the door. This cuts down on the talking they may want to do. You may also get the opportunity to tell them what you'd like to do (stocking the merchandise is good). Stay positive; jobs are out there. Also, you may want to try at the post office. You'll be working alone while delivering mail.
Sadly i'm the opposite it seems, I do remarkably well i the interview, then start the job and leave just as quick cause I cant cope with all the people. Last job I went for was homeHelp for the elderly but I really couldnt hack it, I lasted a day, how sad am I. Oh well, Live and learn!
Hey, I lasted one day at my last job too!! Came in Friday told em I'd see them monday then never showed up..oops . Registering is crazy, you see new faces every ten seconds. I always "want" to strike up a conversation with them but end up asking them how they are then nothing. I'm just never good with keeping communication going, then I get really frustrated. Oh me...
I dont think its at all pathetic to think that way, worrydoll. You cant help being socialphobic. i think people forget its a mental illness and that we cannot control it. If it was that easy we would all be out there doing the things we always wanted to. I think your brave just for working in the first place, I wish i could take that step.
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. Registering is crazy, you see new faces every ten seconds. I always "want" to strike up a conversation with them but end up asking them how they are then nothing. I'm just never good with keeping communication going, then I get really frustrated. Oh me...