How do you make friends?

shy_uk · Newbie User Joined: Oct 15, 2005 Posts: 15

Hi Ade.

Im new on here tonight, just read your post and the first sentence is exactly how I see myself in life.

Regards, Shy_uk

Skyla · Posted: Sat Oct 15, 2005 9:56 pm Post subject:

since leaving secondary skool, ive had difficulty making solid friends. when i was at skool, i had no trouble making friends. By the time i started college i just felt pathetic, i just couldnt understand what was so special or interesting about me that wud make people wanna befriend me. so i cuddnt be myself, therefore i cuddnt make solid friends. i always felt like i was just existing. i was just there, listening and laughing but not taking part.
after two years of college, i remember one friend saying "i feel like i dont really know you skyla" it was said in light terms, but it really hit me. if i could just relax and i have confidence in myself. in my life ive been in dance groups doing shows, ive done drama shows, i grew up in an area with lots of people my age, ive been through auditons and passed and yet, here i am, still not confident and still unable to use situtions like dance groups etc to make friends.

maggie · Posted: Thu Oct 20, 2005 5:37 pm Post subject:

hey Greenade...i can relate to lots of what you said...you said it well....i have grown up, and yet...have not in so many ways....i avoid, if at all possible, anything that causes me anxiety.....i do work full time in a low-paying job....that will get me nowhere....but turn down any requests to become management in my coffee shop cause that would require taking courses Shocked

...and authority over others...doesn't work for me Rolling Eyes

......i am an intelligent person, would love to attend college, but like you, I'm looking at taking online courses to further my education....cause the thought of sitting in a class and the interaction...totally freaks me out...and socially, if anyone asks me out at work..i always have excuse why not to go...so, making friends is extremely difficult for me also.....thank God i have two friends from before my anxiety..got to this point....good luck to you in your support group....that takes lots of courage Razz

......i have been forcing myself to do something every day that i would rather not do....make a phone call, stop at a store Mad

.....initiate conversation at work...go outside, work inthe yard...anything,... just to feel as though i have accomplised something to make me feel more positive....and it usually helps me get through the day....and gives me a small something to think about when i'm lying in bed, instead of kicking myself in the ass for all the stuff i didn't do... Wink

Greenade · Posted: Fri Oct 21, 2005 11:06 am Post subject:

Hi All

Thanks for the replies on this.....its nice to talk to you all Very Happy

I'm not doing the college thing, i'm not even doing any online courses either....maybe its just me but i figure that if i'm stuck in the house doing online courses then i am still not "out there" meeting people, and i maybe furthering my education but i am still not doing the thing i want most of all.....(being part of something and someone) Confused

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Byeee
Ade

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Chihiro · Posted: Sun Oct 22, 2006 5:03 am Post subject:

iloveyou · Newbie User Joined: Oct 22, 2006 Posts: 1

know im not the only person with this even tho it feels like no one can understand...yea i have friends but for some reason i just feel soo lonely sometimes ...im still young n i want to enjoy my teenage life like i mean i go out n live a normal teenage life but i cant seem to make alot of friends ..sometimes i stop and think i do have friends but why do i feel like im being left out? maybe im just depressed n im soo scared to talk to certain ppl i feel like the minute im speakin or the minute they put their eyes on me their judging my every move ..and sometimes i think some ppl think im concieted for not talkin to everyone but its not that its just im too scared or shy watever u wanna call it but i try....... but the fear inside me beats me its sooo depressing I PRAY TO GOD EVERY NIGHT N I CRY ALONE JUST WISHING TO BE NORMAL!!! have confidence to do anything to be myself without caring wat anyone thinks or says about me but it just seems so impossible!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! well it feels good to let it out!!! damn it feels so good ...=)