I'm shy only in certain situations---how to change?

buty · Newbie User Joined: Aug 22, 2005 Posts: 3 Location: KOREA

why we are shy in some or any case,
I thinks it's because we lack confidence.
because we lack confidence,
we are afraid of talking, pushing on, assurance...
so, the most thing we have to do is to respect, loving ourselves. Wink

Good Luck~! Very Happy

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becki · Newbie User Joined: Oct 24, 2005 Posts: 1

my problem is a fear of being embarressed or humiliated and everyone knowing how im feeling. i dont talk to the "popular people" on my degree course as they are the ones who embarass me most. iv not been like this my whole life. i used to be an outgoing and popular person in high school!!! i cant talk about myself and i panic if i think someone is going to ask me about my personal life. i jus go bright red and feel like an idiot. so i try not to draw attention to myself now!! Embarassed

the worst bit is knowing the person i was before all this panic stuff started happening was the real me, an i mite never go back to it!!! i may be like this for ever!! o lord.

Primus · Newbie User Joined: Aug 28, 2005 Posts: 28

becki, you are what you are right now. the SA-free you USED to be you but this is you now so deal with it and love it and do what u love . quit worrying about it and try to get over it

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Nytro · Posted: Tue Nov 08, 2005 7:26 pm Post subject:

GREAT! Slightlyshy and shyshyshy123 I know exactly how you feel. Please feel free to email me or pm. Ive got the friends, but I get shy around the ones I dont fully know. I hate discrimination or "friendly" joking around on my expense. I get real shy in college sittin gnext to intiminating jerk offs you just know step all over people. Its like kind of people like yourselves I like the most! The shyness that you guys have in a way are a gift, use it, we have more compassion and tend to stop and enjoy things more then. The kinds of people who just screw ppl over and drink all the time.

Does anyone else agree with me here? Sure theres an extend where before even knowing about social phobia I felt great fear in thinking I was all alone. And I do get social anxiety when Im aware of the situation that im uncomfortable it only get worse when I analize it.