Eye contact

jss · Posted: Wed Oct 19, 2005 7:14 am Post subject:

few years ago I didn't ever have this eye contact problem even with stranger but now I cann't have eye contact even with my friends in college

if I did look in some one eyes for just few second I will forget what I was saying Very Happy

and blush and all sp symptoms start

for now I look at the ground or the roof for some moments then I look at their eyes again or some times I do like you said I look at their nose

G22 · Newbie User Joined: Oct 19, 2005 Posts: 8

This is definitely a problem that I've also had for nearly all my life. A part of it is due to natural shyness, a bit of anxiety, and whatever else. Lately though, I've been doing much better in keeping eye contact with people. It's always weird because you can never tell what is too little or too much when it comes to that... too little eye contact and people wonder about you... too much eye contact and people become creeped out lol

I guess there's no easy answer to it, but my thing is that I'll try to keep direct eye contact when I'm saying something important or interesting, then wander my eye away from direct contact when I'm sort of thinking about things during the conversation. I'm not sure if that makes any sense, but it sort of works for now. Wink

bluenow · Posted: Wed Oct 19, 2005 6:25 pm Post subject:

It is so hard to look another person in the eye. It's a feeling like the other person is looking inside of me or inside of my thoughts. Now I know they can't and aren't , it just feels that way. It is so embarassing to maintain the look Embarassed

neolithic_man · Newbie User Joined: Nov 14, 2005 Posts: 6

I've been doing pretty good lately with eye contact actually, I guess I just praticed alot and learned how to forget thinking about it, and I've never had anybody act like I was being too starey or anything. Eye contact is instinctual, but only if your not having ANY manual control over it, once you even think about it you'd better forget the notion quickly or you'll have symptoms. Maybe I'm getting a bit better in general, I used to not be able to just forget all the self-conscious-isms, but now more and more I feel like I'm acting naturally. Don't lose the faith folks, things CAN get better.