blushing problem

SP · Newbie User Joined: Sep 12, 2005 Posts: 6

yea thats a great attitude!! i'll try that from now on. =)

Faith · Posted: Sun Oct 23, 2005 8:29 am Post subject:

I know how you feel Leena, I'm like that especially when I'm approached at work by "authority figures." They do notice it which makes me blush even moreso. I find it embarrassing. Embarassed

english-ice · Posted: Tue Oct 25, 2005 2:22 pm Post subject:

last night I went to my first SA support group meeting and there was a group of 10-15 people there.

Now my SA is that I blush Embarassed

If I never went red, I feel as if I wouldn't have any social phobia in my life.To be honest its only been the last 2 or 3 months that I've really started to look up SA and ways of how to overcome it and last night helped.

I was calm and ready last night to speak in public and did so with out going red once Very Happy

I agree with mcshy and your comments with not caring,I know that this could and will be hard to do but I feel this is one of the only ways that we can overcome our blushing problem.

I see my SA as a bad habit that I've picked up and one I need to re-programme myself to overcome-by facing my fear and not hiding from it.

Chilling__Echo · Posted: Tue Oct 25, 2005 7:01 pm Post subject:

great job english-ice, i wish i had a support group to go to... i want to be able to share my story as well as to help others. i've never met someone SA that i knew of in public and it's so easy to forget that we're not alone

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Tanya_S · Posted: Tue Oct 25, 2005 7:05 pm Post subject:

paininspain · Newbie User Joined: Oct 28, 2005 Posts: 1

I've spent the last few days reading people's experiences with blushing and I can't believe how similar their problems are to mine. I have had this condition for 13 years, I don't know how it started I keep thinking it was caused by a one off 'hash cake' experience probably laced with something stronger, which really freaked me out and I remember seeing all these things going through my mind. The psychologist who I saw years later didn't think this was the reason behind it and said it was a more common thing than I thought, which looking at all the postings I believe now.
After it started I went travelling around the world, and the blushing went with me. The thought of meeting people didn't worry me, I thought that 'going red' was just a phase I was going through and taking time off to travel would relax me. But alas, it is still with me after all this time.
I'm tall as well and people say really good looking (probably when I'm not blushing) so I feel people look at me more than normal which only elevates the fear of blushing. To cut a long story short I left the UK and moved to Spain where I married a local girl, the sun certainly helps disguise the blushing, but I don't want to die of skin cancer either ! I told my wife about it as she never mentioned it the first couple of years, she honestly said she hadn't noticed !
I know people who I worked with noticed but never said anything, maybe as many postings say they just forget about it and are too busy worrying about themselves. It doesn't make it any easier though and now my marriage has ended in seperation as my wife thought I was not socialable enough (among other things). I have not learnt Spanish either as when I was in the class I would just go red when I was in the spotlight. This makes life difficult living here, it's not that I don't want to learn, the blushing is stopping me. I'm lucky my job does not require it although people wonder why I don't want to learn.

I think the only way I can overcome it, is to have the 'don't give a s***' attitude and if I blush just let it happen as when you feel yourself going red you forget about the situation your in which highlights the problem even more.
I'm certainly not having surgery, not after what I've read these last few days.

Just wanted to write something after all this time and hope all of you don't get too down, just try and be positive and don't let it worry you. Or move to a sunny country.....
Very Happy

LemonKiss · Newbie User Joined: Oct 14, 2005 Posts: 76

english-ice · Posted: Wed Aug 02, 2006 12:52 am Post subject:

Many people have a fear of blushing, but I can understand why people that don't have this problem may not understand.

I went to my GP at the start of this year to talk about my Facial Blushing and what options if any my Doctor could offer me in my bid to overcome it. - All I got told was to just stop being stupid because everyone blushes at some point and there wasn't anything they could do. (I didn't expect anything, I just wanted to double check anyway.) I wasn't angry with this answer as if you haven't lived with the fear of blushing then you wouldn't understand how big a problem it is for us.

If we're not careful then this fear of blushing will take our lives away. I'm turning 25 in november (Hardly old) but I now realise that I've not moved forward in some areas of my life in six years and I have to put this down to my fear of blushing. You can get caught up in a cycle that stops you from living your life to the max and thats all I want to do,be the best that I can be.

karmen · Newbie User Joined: Jul 05, 2006 Posts: 32

i blush too Crying or Very sad

i find that doing some physical activity works to calm me also the more i put myself in embarresing situations the more i just get used to it and accept it