Posted: Thu Oct 27, 2005 3:54 pm Post subject: what brave or courageous things have you accomplished???
so yesterday....while driving and thinking....(and probably having that stupid bewildered, uncomfortable look about me )....i thought about some of the braver things i've done in my life.....here are a few........1. i went to a driver's test, drove with a complete stranger...and got my license!! how the fuck did i do that?...hmm....2. i went to job interview...3 or 4 actually, and got the jobs!!.....3. once...i parked and lifted up the hood of my car, cause my friend had the hots for a guy who worked at a gas station...and waited for him to come over and help us ......4. i walked, alone, into the bank and opened up a new account ...5. i used to have friends over, make dinner for them and have drinks...and actually have fun...6. i moved away from home at 17...moved to another city and attended college for a year...really not sure how i did that....but it makes me wonder.......if i had the courage at some point to do these things...what happened?....it kind of depresses me...like....is the courage still inside me somewhere...and i've lost it?....or need to figure out a way to find it?.... ....makes me wonder ...and i'm curious....what are the bravest things you've done
Oh wow Maggie. These are really great accomplishments You should definitely feel proud for doing these, especially since you accomplished them inspite of your SA. In particular moving out of home at 17! I've always lived with my parents.
The bravest things I've done that spring to mind....
1. Attended teaching interviews in the past (even if you get through these, they give you grades and I got the highest grade- higher than most of my peers who are MUCH more confident and experienced)
2. One interview involved reading a story aloud to a group of children while being watched by the headteacher, 2 governors and 2 teachers. How did I do that!?
3. Standing in front of a class of 30 kids and teaching them.
4. Went to my sister's birthday party and chatted to all her friends and was very friendly and outgoing with them. Her house was packed and her friends even said that I'm completely different to her in that I'm much more confident and relaxed with new people!
Strange that the way we view ourselves and think other people perceive us can turn out to be so wrong.
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Posted: Thu Oct 27, 2005 5:43 pm Post subject:
wow maggie i didn't know all that about you! that's alot, kudos to you. you too sahara
-i've gone to college
-with enough preparation i can do a presentation (depends on the crowd though
-i can manage my anxiety most of the time (i.e. when i'm by myself and constantly worry)
wow....SaharaWorld and Chilling_Echo....i'm impressed....how on earth do you stand in front of others and speak?...or give presentation??..yikes...i could never do that
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Posted: Thu Oct 27, 2005 5:56 pm Post subject:
i still get butterflies and stuff, but i can't just walk in a room and talk, i have to sit and observe others for a bit and psych myself up to it. like, i look at them and say in my head, convince myself that they're no better or more capable than me. i can do it too. be open in public.
and i take really deep breaths and go slow. don't pay attention to what i sound like, be neutral, and try to stay calm. it's taken alot of practice and psyching myself up for it... but it's possible
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Posted: Thu Oct 27, 2005 5:57 pm Post subject:
also, i won't let myself kick myself when it's over. i'm never satisfied with something i may have said or done and you kinow how you go home and it just replays in your head over and over? i absolutely won't let myself do that. i just say "get over it" and try to forget it and move on... it helps
Chilling_Echo....i like what you say about not second guessing yourself all the time....and to "just get over it" and move on...i need to learn to do that
wow....SaharaWorld and Chilling_Echo....i'm impressed....how on earth do you stand in front of others and speak?...or give presentation??..yikes...i could never do that
Thanks I find it okay getting up infront of a group of children - infact prefer to present to an audience of 40 children than 5 adults!
The anticipatory anxiety is usually the most difficult part. Once the presentation is over, you get a real buzz. Plus, people are expecting you to look/feel nervous - it's a presentation after all! So no need to worry about embarassing yourself, as everyone else (no matter how outgoing and extroverted) is dreading it too and is in the same boat.
also, i won't let myself kick myself when it's over. i'm never satisfied with something i may have said or done and you kinow how you go home and it just replays in your head over and over? i absolutely won't let myself do that. i just say "get over it" and try to forget it and move on... it helps
That is a great piece of advice, I definitely need to do that from now on.
I'm back in school after quite a few years. I had total school phobia and probably still do, but not as bad.
Was a waitress for 5 years - I have no idea how I did that!
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)....i thought about some of the braver things i've done in my life.....here are a few........1. i went to a driver's test, drove with a complete stranger...and got my license!! how the fuck did i do that?...hmm....2. i went to job interview...3 or 4 actually, and got the jobs!!.....3. once...i parked and lifted up the hood of my car, cause my friend had the hots for a guy who worked at a gas station...and waited for him to come over and help us 
......4. i walked, alone, into the bank and opened up a new account 
...5. i used to have friends over, make dinner for them and have drinks...and actually have fun...6. i moved away from home at 17...moved to another city and attended college for a year...really not sure how i did that....but it makes me wonder.......if i had the courage at some point to do these things...what happened?....it kind of depresses me...like....is the courage still inside me somewhere...and i've lost it?....or need to figure out a way to find it?.... 
....makes me wonder 
You should definitely feel proud for doing these, especially since you accomplished them inspite of your SA. In particular moving out of home at 17! I've always lived with my parents.
