Joined: Jul 22, 2005 Posts: 89 Location: United States of America
Posted: Wed Nov 09, 2005 2:16 am Post subject:
rko74 I feel for ya. Im 24 and feel like Im rapidly approaching your situation I moved out of moms house at 22, but only to move in with my brother, so its still like Im living off someone else. Im so poor I could never afford my own life.
As for the womenz deal, I have no clue dude. Ive tried internet dating services, crying my eyes out, talking to god, wishing I was never born, looking down the barrel of a gun, hell I even tried asking some girls out.
I think Im beginning to become "militantly single". Im almost pissed off about it now. THE HELL WITH IT!!! Stupid bitches, I dont want nothing to do with you either you shallow fucking idiots!!!!! Just leave me the fuck ALONE! like you have been........
Joined: Jul 22, 2005 Posts: 89 Location: United States of America
Posted: Wed Nov 09, 2005 2:22 am Post subject: I HATE EVERYBODY
in this shitty fucking world! YOU ALL CAN GO TO HELL AND EAT SHIT while sipping your super double latte cappochino CRAP!
When you see the low life motherfucker on a street corner, living in rags, pushing a shopping cart THINK OF ME. Think of your BULLSHIT rules and regulations for everything. Think of the cost of living. Think about those of us who are left in the dust. Be thankful we arent mean-spirited violent people
Well I just wanted to say not to give up on us girls! My boyfriend never had a girlfriend before me and he was 25 and living with his parents. (and he didn't even have SA as an excuse!!) Alot of guys (and girls) are in this situation so don't be embarassed. Besides, I'd rather date someone who was older and never dated than someone who didn't take relationships seriously and had slept with lots of girls.
Oh yeah, and in this day and age it would make a girl feel "safer" if the guy they were dating hadn't slept around. (you know, STD's and all). Just be persisent and put yourself out there. Alot of girls are jerks, but not all.
Wow I thought I was the only one. I am 27 and have never had a girlfriend or been on a date. It is so relieving to hear you guys talking about things that I have often thought about, like feeling like I am letting down my parents. Until a year or two ago, I didnt even want a girlfriend or friends (which I dont have either), but recently I have started thinking I might like some companionship. But now I am completely lost, as to how to meet people, how to start a converstaion, or even what people do on a date? Needless to say I have never been dancing or kissed a girl or anything, LOL. I can see all of that being big hurdles. I actually wish I didnt feel the need for friends or a girlfriend, like a few years ago. I dunno why I have changed. Well Its more than a month since your post so lets hope you have had some luck in your goals, whatever they may be
Im 15, so at the moment it doesnt matter that I've never had a boyfriend...but I know that eventually it will get to the point where I will be the only one and then I will feel like even more of a freak than I do now...
Joined: Jan 05, 2006 Posts: 28 Location: Los Angeles, CA
Posted: Thu Jan 05, 2006 7:07 am Post subject: Re: I have never had a girlfriend in my life
rko74 wrote:
Ok there i said it, and im really embarassed.I'm 31, is there hope for me? Its not that im ugly or anything its just the social phobia me not overcoming it. Im trying to do something about it, im going to see a therapist this month and he told me to read "Dying of Embarassment".I wish i had more motivation.I think i have let it go on so long because im so comfortable living at home with my parents.
Wow! You just described me my friend. You just described me to a t. I am currently 31 years old and I still live with my parents, and I have never had a girlfriend either. I have been struggling with Social Anxiety Disorder along with alot of depression and loneliness for years now. As I write this, I am currently in a very bad frame of mind. It seems as if the depression has worsened ALOT over the past few months - alot of it has to do with the holidays and seeing people around me so happy - and I feel like I am reaching the breaking point. I feel really really helpless and really really ashamed and disgusted with myself. I honestly wish that I could be someone else.
I am glad that I registered with this site and it's helpful to read other people who are going through the same things as I am. However, I feel like I am reaching a point with my depression that is scaring me. I keep having persistent fantasies and thoughts of ending my life and checking out of this world. I drove around in the car earlier today going absolutely nowhere - just driving around town, and I was literally crying as I was driving. I was going over in my head how bad things are and how so damn lonely I feel, and I couldn't stop crying. It's been a bad, bad time and I am tired, tired, tired of this condition and of all the things that go along with it: depression, loneliness, shame, missed opportunities, tons of regrets, e.t.c.....
I look around and I see guys and girls who are 18,19 years old who are outgoing, happy, who are dating and having relationships, and I get really sad. I never did any of that. I realize that because of this SA and because of all of the depression and the self-esteem issues that I have blown a large portion of my life; I virtually wasted my youth because of SA. And you know what? It really hurts! I will never know what it was like to date as a teenager, to kiss as a teenager, to have sex as a teenager because I was too busy being afraid. Damn guys, this really really hurts. I don't know what to do. It's hard to press on and to continue on with life when you feel like there is no way out or no better way. I'm not sure what is worse: the social anxiety disorder itself, or the god-awful depression and loneliness that results from the SA.......Not to mention the serious blows to a persons self-esteem and self-concept.
Posted: Fri Jan 06, 2006 10:12 am Post subject: Re: I have never had a girlfriend in my life
AnthonyJ31 wrote:
rko74 wrote:
Ok there i said it, and im really embarassed.I'm 31, is there hope for me? Its not that im ugly or anything its just the social phobia me not overcoming it. Im trying to do something about it, im going to see a therapist this month and he told me to read "Dying of Embarassment".I wish i had more motivation.I think i have let it go on so long because im so comfortable living at home with my parents.
Wow! You just described me my friend. You just described me to a t. I am currently 31 years old and I still live with my parents, and I have never had a girlfriend either. I have been struggling with Social Anxiety Disorder along with alot of depression and loneliness for years now. As I write this, I am currently in a very bad frame of mind. It seems as if the depression has worsened ALOT over the past few months - alot of it has to do with the holidays and seeing people around me so happy - and I feel like I am reaching the breaking point. I feel really really helpless and really really ashamed and disgusted with myself. I honestly wish that I could be someone else.
I am glad that I registered with this site and it's helpful to read other people who are going through the same things as I am. However, I feel like I am reaching a point with my depression that is scaring me. I keep having persistent fantasies and thoughts of ending my life and checking out of this world. I drove around in the car earlier today going absolutely nowhere - just driving around town, and I was literally crying as I was driving. I was going over in my head how bad things are and how so damn lonely I feel, and I couldn't stop crying. It's been a bad, bad time and I am tired, tired, tired of this condition and of all the things that go along with it: depression, loneliness, shame, missed opportunities, tons of regrets, e.t.c.....
I look around and I see guys and girls who are 18,19 years old who are outgoing, happy, who are dating and having relationships, and I get really sad. I never did any of that. I realize that because of this SA and because of all of the depression and the self-esteem issues that I have blown a large portion of my life; I virtually wasted my youth because of SA. And you know what? It really hurts! I will never know what it was like to date as a teenager, to kiss as a teenager, to have sex as a teenager because I was too busy being afraid. Damn guys, this really really hurts. I don't know what to do. It's hard to press on and to continue on with life when you feel like there is no way out or no better way. I'm not sure what is worse: the social anxiety disorder itself, or the god-awful depression and loneliness that results from the SA.......Not to mention the serious blows to a persons self-esteem and self-concept.
I almost cried while reading your post. I am 16 and SA started just 3 years ago. before that i was just shy..but three quarters of my class are dating and i am not..i just feel so out of place..i have friends who are girls who care for me and walk home with me and go lunch with me..but i am SO DAMN AFRAID TO ASK THEM OUT ON A DATE. god help me omg...
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Stupid bitches, I dont want nothing to do with you either you shallow fucking idiots!!!!! Just leave me the fuck ALONE! like you have been........
Ok there i said it, and im really embarassed.I'm 31, is there hope for me? Its not that im ugly or anything its just the social phobia me not overcoming it. Im trying to do something about it, im going to see a therapist this month and he told me to read "Dying of Embarassment".I wish i had more motivation.I think i have let it go on so long because im so comfortable living at home with my parents.
