How Much Has Shyness Sculpted Your Personality

LemonKiss · Newbie User Joined: Oct 14, 2005 Posts: 76

I sometimes wonder, how different would I be if I wasn't so shy? I think I would be very different. I'm quiet and I easedrop all the time. I spend hours thinking about people and why they do the things they do. I'm a good listener too.

I think if I wasn't shy, I would be much less sensitive. Because I am so senstive, I always treat people in the best way possible. There are many good traits I have because of my shyness. I know that fear has often held me back in life, but I'm going to try and dwell on the positive aspects of me for a bit.

So what about you? How different would you be if you were never shy?

By the way, does anyone else here have any interest in psychology? I hope to become a psychologist and I was wondering if anyone else wanted to. I love listening to people talk about themselves and I want to help.

abc1234 · Posted: Tue Nov 15, 2005 6:28 am Post subject:

shyness controls some of my life well a big part of it not being able to relate with too many people my age is a big issue fo me i just feel so out of place like im a 60 yr old man traped in a 21 yr kids body haha

beetle · Posted: Tue Nov 15, 2005 1:49 pm Post subject:

Wow, LemonKiss, when I read your post it was as if it could have been written by me! I have recently been thinking the exact things that you said. I have been starting to think positively about my sensitivity, and actually value it.

Also I certainly do have an interest in psychology. In fact I am in my 3rd year of a degree in psychology. I chose to do it because like you said, I spent/spend hours thinking about people and why they do the things they do, which led naturally to doing psychology (because that is what it's all about!). I'm guessing that I will become a psychologist, although I still don't know what area I'm going to specialize in.

I think the high level of sensitivity, shyness and thoughtfulness I have has caused me to see and analyse everything more. While it's bad now because I'm in the throes of social phobia, and the situation I'm in now is not great, I think that when I am in a more comfortable situation, I will be glad of the way shyness has shaped my personality. Because I think it will have resulted in me being a nice and thoughtful person (as you can see, I don't really have too much of a problem with self-esteem any more! My problems are just finding the right situations and people to be myself with).

Skyla · Posted: Wed Nov 16, 2005 2:09 pm Post subject:

i used to think there was a problem with being shy and quiet. i wanted to be the loud confident one. but i realise thats just who i am. theres is nothing with being shy. obviously if its escalated into SA, then theres a slight problem, lol. but being shy doesnt equal being less attractive, less appealing, less interesting etc.

maria1 · Newbie User Joined: Nov 16, 2005 Posts: 2

I fell the same----- that my shyness stops me to think....sometimes...I am in a gruop and I do not only stop saying things because I might look stupid----but also I am so nervous I do not think properly and I can not say anything....it is horrible....shyness..I agree make me a sensitive person....but at the end I am having a horrible time

redlady · Elite User Joined: Jul 08, 2005 Posts: 1958

I think that i would be sensitive anyway - i would still have gone through the same shit and would still think 'I know the pain of this so i am not going to inflict it on someone else'. I hate being shy, i hate that it is putting a strangle hold on who i really am - i have so much inside of me but my shyness stops me from expressing it.

renegade · Advanced User Joined: Oct 26, 2005 Posts: 338

idunnoimnotcreativ · Posted: Sat Nov 19, 2005 5:04 am Post subject:

Shyness is what made me who I am. Every positive and negative aspect about me is because of this personality trait. I'm terrible at conversations, obviously due to my shyness....and I do really well in school, because I have no life due to my shyness.

I'm getting over it little by little, but I'm still a long way from completely overcoming it. I dont care so much about turning into a really loud outgoing person...I just want to get to the point where I have freedom...freedom to be comfortable no matter what the situation I'm in.

Falling · Newbie User Joined: Jul 24, 2005 Posts: 92

mine is the opposite of you all.... shyness hides the real me... maybe my shyness is the fear that i will be rejected by showing myself, not make people having a good time, not sounding funny... i know that i can be fun, making people having a good time... i do it with my close friends, but only with certain type of people i can be me... ugh these days i'm feeling so confuseddddddddd.

Cork_Tree · Posted: Thu Nov 24, 2005 12:02 pm Post subject:

I think i may have achieved more if i was not so shy, i love to be a writer but whenever i write something even if no ones looking i will feel really ashames of what ive written and delete before any one else can see it. My family say ill never be a writer if i wont even let them see these things but its not that easy. Crying or Very sad