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chav Intermediate User


Joined: Oct 22, 2005 Posts: 102 Location: England, Southampton, Romsey
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Posted: Fri Nov 11, 2005 2:11 pm Post subject: never been in love |
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i really want to fall in love with someone, because i wont feel so lonely as i do right now, ive had a few bf's but none of them were serious but i want a serious relationship even though im only 13. i dont want a fling i want love
please tell me someone can relate to this
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Remus Moderator


Joined: Nov 23, 2004 Posts: 1533 Location: Manchester UK
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Posted: Fri Nov 11, 2005 2:25 pm Post subject: |
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Thas me in a nutshell and I've always been that way, I dont do the "fling thing", always want something longterm
freinds have said I'm boring but thats just me I guess
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chav Intermediate User


Joined: Oct 22, 2005 Posts: 102 Location: England, Southampton, Romsey
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Posted: Fri Nov 11, 2005 2:41 pm Post subject: |
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ive had lots of flings on the internet, only online coz of sp. ive had so many flings i feel like a tart.
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sad_kat Intermediate User


Joined: Sep 07, 2005 Posts: 192 Location: UK
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Posted: Fri Nov 11, 2005 2:54 pm Post subject: hi |
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i am the same as u chav. i really wish i had a serious boyfriend so i wouldnt be so lonely, like someone to understand me for who i am. im 17 and i dont think i will ever get one ever! its so unfair my friends have bf's but i dont i wish i cud be in love
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just-jonny Newbie User


Joined: Oct 30, 2005 Posts: 29 Location: Wales
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Posted: Fri Nov 11, 2005 3:24 pm Post subject: |
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| chav wrote: | | want to fall in love with someone, because i wont feel so lonely |
Hey chav,
Wanting to be in love with someone for a reason such as not feeling lonely may not improve your self-esteem. Love can come in many forms e.g. trust, lust, selfish, greed, so be careful when wishing for love.
I’ve just came out of a dangerous love and I feel more lonely than I’ve ever have, although I do wish and hope you find what your looking for.
Love just-Jonny
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Remus Moderator


Joined: Nov 23, 2004 Posts: 1533 Location: Manchester UK
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Posted: Fri Nov 11, 2005 3:29 pm Post subject: |
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| Steve-182 wrote: | | i think that if I found love then it would help solve a lot of the issues I have |
I think that is the case of "will a relationship cure my SA"
something I've found hasnt in any way shape or form, its helped make it worse in some ways, best to get better and then try, when that will be ...who knows????
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Remus Moderator


Joined: Nov 23, 2004 Posts: 1533 Location: Manchester UK
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Posted: Fri Nov 11, 2005 4:28 pm Post subject: |
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masking is ok to a point but then we avoid (yes.... avoidance) who we really are, issues cant be solved when wearing masks, you have to find your true self and get better as that person, this is no mean feat and the hardest thing for any of us to do, I'm nowhere near 100% but have come along way from where I used to be, I've been honest about myself to my freinds too, that I think helped, even though it takes along time for them to get it after explaining so much, I think once we talk about it and are accepted, then thats one of the first steps to being abit more "normal"
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Remus Moderator


Joined: Nov 23, 2004 Posts: 1533 Location: Manchester UK
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Posted: Fri Nov 11, 2005 5:28 pm Post subject: |
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| yetisbabe wrote: | | Steve-182 wrote: | | i think that if I found love then it would help solve a lot of the issues I have |
A very old cliche, but one that seems to have more defenition for me as time goes on. You have to love yourself in order to love someone else. Also...its not for someone else to sort out your issues. |
well said!
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thoughtless Expert User


Joined: Jun 01, 2005 Posts: 719 Location: Portugal
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Posted: Sat Nov 19, 2005 6:20 am Post subject: |
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I know what you mean, Remus. Being in a relationship won't make your SA any better and it can actually make it worse in some aspects (as in having an extra concern about how you look, how you can be embarassing your 'better half', etc).
And damn, saying that you're boring is a cruel thing to say to a friend.
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abc1234 Advanced User


Joined: Jun 25, 2005 Posts: 410 Location: Pennsylvania
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Posted: Sat Nov 19, 2005 6:44 am Post subject: |
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chav and all other boys and girls dont go out looking for love maybe love is suposed to find us some how atleast that what keeps me going just telling my self that and i think i may have kinda been found so everyone hold ur heads high and be proud of who you are do not live and regret take all the oppertuinties that life throws at you never feel asamed of the way god has made u cause i the people in this place r the nicest people every just reading though the post iv realized that here in theirs forums their enough love to go around the who world
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