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Posted: Sat Dec 03, 2005 8:24 pm Post subject:
i've heard alot of people have the same complaints. trust me, there's nothing wrong with your profile!! a man who can cook? you can just bring yourself on over to north carolina
try www.myspace.com - it's not dating but people are a bit sociable.
plus, i think sites like that only really caters to the people with the swinger lifestyle and model bodies. or they're all just fake.
good luck anyway, but there's nothing wrong with you!!
I've done nothing on that site in months and months, but still occasionally get a note from a woman (twice this week, in fact-- a bumper crop) -- not often, but it happens. Try it!
I also used to recommend a pay site for people who don't automatically rule out potential partners with a few extra pounds-- largefriends.com-- but they just doubled their pricing (to $20) and there aren't many things you can do free on that site. Yet, I got a decent amount of responses and even unsolicited emails on that site ... and I'm not rich, perfect, nor absolutely stunning ... women do give you 'points' for clever and well-written profiles, though (/end horn toot ) However, this seems to be one site where the women outnumber the men ...
Yahoo's service wasn't bad when it was free years back, but now it's expensive AND you don't get much attention out of it.
And sometimes you can write a message to someone who seems liek they'd be interested and never get a reply. Sometimes it's cuz you guessed wrong , sometimes the person =never got the message or is no longer using the site (people never take down old ads it seems), or they're chatting with too many people. Many women will just ignore a message rather than write back to say "thanks but no thanks" due to the fact that women are very very VERY often stalked online by some seriously creepy people. (EVERY female I know who chats on Yahoo, ferinstance). Along with the fact that most personals sites are very male-heavy, any man can't expect a lot of attention on these sites, and has to expend some effort (more than one "should have to" so to speak) to get any. BUT IT'S POSSIBLE. Hell, the vast majority of my dating/relationship experience was made possible by the Internet.
I know some might kill to have this problem, but my problem is that, for quite a while now, I haven't really been at all interested in any of the people who expressed interest in me, and, of course, really dig the ones who end up ignoring me. Sigh. I wonder if I'm even capable of love anymore, actually, as I haven't felt anything like it in years now... and the person I've been most recently dating, who's got a great heart and is very understanding and accepting of all my myriad faults, I just somehow, for no reason I can determine, find myself not falling for. It's ridiculous. I feel like I'm in the process of blowing a chance (perhaps the last?) at something real for this disaster of a boy (me!), but I just can't fake it and string someone along for my own benefit ... OK, I went off-topic, sorry.
Dating sites ? I've given up on them after putting all my hopes in them. I sent like 50 messages and got no relpy.
U have better chances of meeting girls to date on chat, belive me. Just ask them for an MSN/Yahoo Messenger adress and talk to her for a weak or two and then ask her out. That is the theory and it works for me. And this is the point where I can't do the practice anymore.
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Thanks for your post J, made me think, especially about having to put in extra effort as you said. I mean, take a look at these sites, there's twice as many men on there as women.
If you don't get a response, is it because you personally are just unwanted, or is it because these women are being bombarded with tons of messages and that is what is reducing your chances.
yeah try plentyoffish...I think it's one of the better free dating sites(though I warn against posting much on the forums--some of the people on the plentyoffish forums are jerks--they were saying bad things about me for something I was discussing that wasn't even my fault...sometimes I wish I could jump through the computer screen and punch people like that).
I've gotten quite a few messages there but alot of the people I've liked best on there dont live close to me, of course...haven't really found many interesting people nearby. And as usual I get alot of messages from old men, which I'm not interested in.
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) However, this seems to be one site where the women outnumber the men ...
