really to talk to someone of the opposite sex. all you really need. is confidence. that's the hard one. confidence and charm can take you very far. But being confident with the opposite sex. Won't happen overnight. It will take some time. After you start speaking with others, and gettign comfortable with the opposite sex. You'll start to build confidence.
Smiling helps. I mean don't just go up and smile in her face. that would just be kinda creepy.
Eye contact is a must. Fear can make or break someone. You don't have to stare there either. That's kinda creepy also.
Say hi!
Ask him/her questions about things that s/he enjoys doing.
Ask him/her questions about the things you have in common. Mention that you have them in common!
When you're asking these questions, listen to what s/he has to say!
When it feels like the conversation is wrapping up, say, 'It was nice talking to you.'
Don't just walk about to someone and go, hi can I get your phone number. It rarely works. And will save your self some embarassment.
And lastly my last piece of advice. Is also very crucial. Don't be afraid of falling off the horse. You just have to get back up. And try,try,try. Persistance does pay off. Well sometimes not with the same person. But keep on trying. And you'll eventually meet the girl/guy you're looking for.
Questions, comments, and concerns. Are greatly appreciated. And as always kids ask your parents before calling.
Tips:
1.Most people enjoy it when someone of the opposite sex approaches them. Remember that and relax!
2.We don't often get an opportunity to talk about ourselves. It sure is fun when someone gives us a chance!
3.If you are self-conscious about talking with the opposite sex, remember that the person you're talking to won't be even close to as critical of you as you are of yourself.
You don't really strike me as socially phobic or shy.. where did you learn all of this? and were you or are you really that shy? You seem pretty confident is all I'm saying.
I guess girls find confidence attractive hmm. need to get some of that..*sigh*
I used to be extremely shy when I was a kid. And all threw highschool. I used to be afraid that I was going to say something dumb. Or just look like a complete ass. Hell at times now i'm shy. Like some days i'll stand next to someone, or sit next to someone. And not say anything. And be like.. Ok leave me...
But things that were my weak points, or things that i'm not confident about. I work on. If i don't have anything to say. I surf the net. My homepage is msn. So i read the headlines. The entertainment. And sports scores. Which gives me things to talk about. Women love the gossip stuff. And men love the sports.
Yes the opposite sex likes confidence. But being shy can also be a cute thing. Cause confidence can also come off as cocky.
And don't get me wrong. I can be shy. I can talk myself out of not talking to someone. Belittle myself. My own negativity is my own worse enemy. Some days.
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