I hold a lot of rage inside. Yes I can totally relate. So much anger builds with frustration at not being able to express my self to people and let them see who I really am. All I can do is try to find some creative way to get it out when I'm alone, but even that isn't always enough.
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Joined: Dec 11, 2005 Posts: 255 Location: Grand Rapids, Michigan, USA!
Posted: Sun Dec 18, 2005 7:07 am Post subject:
Personally, I believe that much of my social anxiety has come from bottling up and repressing a lot of strong feelings that I have had -- affection, anger, disappointment, fear -- if I were less inhibitted and expressed my feelings more, I don't think I would have the problems I have.
I have had a great deal of anger and resentment bottled up, and just recently I am starting to express it. Now, people who used to think that I had no temper at all are saying that they are "scared of me" -- I think it is just because I have not developed good skills of expressing anger which I believe to be necessary.
Have a temper tantrum and then move on to other feelings -- joy, happiness, etc. -- and don't let the negative feelings fester inside of you.
I have to say that shy peeps have it the worse. We are so anxious that we find it hard to say much in front of other people and then we can't stick up for ourselves!
I don't know but I believe that in my case, it may be the result of being under the authority of two older brothers.
Joined: Dec 06, 2005 Posts: 30 Location: melbourne
Posted: Tue Dec 27, 2005 1:50 am Post subject:
yeah, if someone does something to piss me off i won't say anything but i'll get this attitude about me (like i won't look at them, with a sour look on my face). then i'll get home and realise what an idiot i must have looked!!!!
For me a lot of the anger definately came from being bullied and being too scared to fight back. And that was way back when I was just a kid. The frustration from that just kinda snowballed. I was a violently angry teen. I didn't beat up on other people, but I did a lot of destruction to property. Add to the (supposed) inability to defend myself the inability to even carry a conversation. Boxing took care of the first part and learning how to actually relate to other people took care of the second.
Hmm.. you could say I have a bit of an anger problem. The small amount's of genuine disrespect toward me drives me nuts. As others have said, I bottle it in.
I only recently found this out when I went to work. My supervisor was a real pain. Everyone thought he was a jerk. He'd give you the most evil look for no reason. Everyone kept their guard up. But with my shyness and all, the sensitivity to it made me break inside.
The sad thing, is when I see any amount of injustice in my view, it drives me nuts. It's so sad, that even bannings in mIRC chatrooms make me upset.
like last year i didnt like getting angry, i thought it was stupid
but recently i say "its ok" if i get angry
sometimes i get angry at other ppl , especially if they let me down and hurt me, sometimes at things that happen
Like most of people here I just bottle my anger up and no one would expect that I would ever be angry. Sometimes when I'm angry I just listen to really loud aggressive music (Tool is really the key when i'm angry ). It's not often that I show that I'm angry and I think you have to be careful to just follow the feeling. I have had some incidents where I was drunk and I got really angry and showed it.. But I'm not sure if that have given me anything but a emberrasing memory.
Joined: Dec 19, 2004 Posts: 151 Location: Australia
Posted: Sun Apr 23, 2006 12:19 pm Post subject:
I get so worked up around other people, especially neighbours, that i feel agitated towards them(because i am so nervous-like i'm ready to fight feeling) ..like there the enemy(i know there not), . Yet i am a really gentle person any other time. I'm sure they can pick up on it?
I hate being like that, because that is definately not even close to my real personality.
I have never hurt anyone in my life and I never would. I am very careful with other people's feelings.
That's because you are afraid of them, of their reaction if you hurted them and not because you are a "good" person.
We are always afraid of what others think and their opinion is like a dangerous weapon to us, so if we hurt their feelings, "god" (who's this guy anyway?) knows what could happen to us.
Do not confuse fear with goodness. If I could, I would probably hurt a lot of futil and stupid people.
Fear and guilt are dangerous poisons to the "soul" (what is this stuff anyway?).
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). It's not often that I show that I'm angry and I think you have to be careful to just follow the feeling. I have had some incidents where I was drunk and I got really angry and showed it.. But I'm not sure if that have given me anything but a emberrasing memory.
