Nervous

MRnomates · Intermediate User Joined: Sep 26, 2004 Posts: 114

Do most of you get extremly stupidly nervous when you go out for no reason i know i do i don't know why i do?

LilMissTragic · Expert User Joined: Sep 05, 2004 Posts: 803

I'm quite fine about going out, I'm just not so keen when I know there will be a lot of people about but I push myself and go out anyways.

Tris · Posted: Tue Oct 12, 2004 11:05 pm Post subject:

Yup thats why avoid going out..lol, i guess thats not a good method!

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Yossarian · Posted: Wed Oct 13, 2004 2:39 am Post subject:

All the time my friend. All the time.

For me the initial step of leaving my flat is the most difficult (not in an agrophobic sense) Although I hate it when I'm out, listening to the Clash on my CD player is a great distraction which helps alot. And its Autumn now which is good as I find it much easier to be out when it's dark and rainy.

In fact the other day it was great! It was absolutely pouring down and everyone had their heads down hiding in shop doorways except for me, an almost complete reverse of the usual situation. Like a negative (or indeed a positve!). I was completely drenched though.

Ah the good ol' days.

Guest · Posted: Wed Oct 13, 2004 2:06 pm Post subject:

ME TOO!!

steve111 · Posted: Wed Oct 13, 2004 4:26 pm Post subject: Re: Nervous

steve111 · Posted: Thu Oct 14, 2004 11:30 am Post subject:

[quote="worrydoll"]it doesnt work steve to know you can do it to build up etc etc..phobias are irrational. there is NO reason for me to be scared or nervous. i/quote]

There is always a reason worrydoll. It could just be very deep inside you. Phobias are irrational, yet they display an origin. Try to look at your earliest memories as a child. Try to look at significant experiences you had.

Different · Posted: Thu Oct 14, 2004 4:59 pm Post subject:

I always get nervous before going out without knowing why too. Maybe I might bump into a familiar person or something.

Marky · Posted: Thu Oct 14, 2004 8:35 pm Post subject:

yeah i get nevous a lot as well, not if im going to a friends house that i know and trust but people who dont know me are the people who i am likely to feel anxious around. it just depends on the circumstances i guess.

Yossarian · Posted: Fri Oct 15, 2004 12:48 am Post subject:

Steve I like your posts, you always seem to be positive and helpful.

That said I know you mean well but I don't think your swimming analogy is accurate. Once you have learnt to swim you can just repeat yourself and you'll be o.k. Social situations are different, especially public areas which you have no idea who or what will happen.

O.k. so I managed to make small talk today but I can't repeat the same words (like I could swimming strokes) tomorrow. Just because nothing happened when I went outside today doesn't mean something bad can't happen tomorrow. I guess it's the bad side of 'tomorrow's another day'.

Still you're right nothing will change unless we make it.