Posted: Tue Jan 31, 2006 7:07 pm Post subject: Agonizing anxiety at work
Do we disorder sufferers become a `target` for people at work?
Today at work was the most agonising day of anxiety i have ever experienced, i was so self conscious, so anxious it was simply crippling. I get asked to do a single simple thing and they go on at me because i havent done it right, people watch ever little move i make. Its a real nightmare. But i think and always think i am who i am and they have a problem with me. I hate those people i work with, they have no idea what we have to go through, even tho they dont know. I feel like standing on my desk and screaming "Yes i have OCD, BDD and bad anxiety!" Why do they have to put me through anxious turmoil every day?
Ya, this happened to me before. Now I see it done to other people. For whatever reason someone gets singled out and they can do no right. It was me several years ago. Now I see someone else at work who is the target. She doesn't suffer from any disorder. She's just a tad on the 'ugly' side and seems to be a little 'different'. By that I mean 'odd' (in behavior). Any one of us workers could be asked to do something; it would just be a friendly or typical request from the boss. This woman gets asked, and it's addressed to her as if she's some kind of idiot. I guess it's just people dealing with someone who is obviously different from them. If it's ANY comfort for you, I don't deal with it at all anymore, so just because it's happening today doesn't necessarily mean it's a permanent thing.
Joined: Jul 07, 2005 Posts: 922 Location: United Kingdom
Posted: Thu Feb 02, 2006 9:14 pm Post subject:
People who suffer with anxiety often are the targets of this, because people can vent their own anger and frustrations out on them, and the person suffering from anxiety won't fight back. Also, anxious people are good for making bosses feel great, and powerful, cos they can exert their power over you. Shock them one day, and bitch back
Posted: Thu Feb 02, 2006 10:00 pm Post subject: the targets
thanks naomi its always interesting to read your replies because you have good comments. (Youve got a mature head on your shoulders lol)
at work i seem to be the target of ridicule. people think im dizzy, stupid, they smirk behind my back and be patronising to me. Every moment is like walking on a tightladder. Its like trying to hold a cracked glass vase together. But i have to work and i cant give up and hide away, i take a deep breath and charge across the office like a busy body. Maybe its just the way it goes for anxiety sufferers. But it affects me because i have to go there every day and when u get home ur still at the `office`
Joined: Oct 31, 2005 Posts: 70 Location: Worcestershire, UK
Posted: Sat Feb 04, 2006 6:43 pm Post subject:
Hi Kandi,
I can totally relate to the anxiety you're going through at work. I haven't worked for almost a year and would like to find some part time work. I've felt the same way about people watching every move I make - and sometimes they have. For me, one of the worst things was when I was being trained on reception duties which can be a very difficult job. I got on much better when the guy who was "training" me left as I felt he was picking up on things that weren't that important.
I'm oversensitive and can often take criticism as a personal attack but I do think there are people in work who make you feel as if you can't do something.
Joined: May 16, 2005 Posts: 328 Location: United States of America
Posted: Sat Feb 11, 2006 4:41 am Post subject:
Wow...OCD, BDD, and anxiety...that sounds stressful!
I was told at my yearly review that I should open up and talk to the other employees more...but it was a desk job. I talked on the phone all day long. That did not make any sense to me. I talked to others when I needed to and that was it. I thought it was good productivity. I definitely felt targeted and very confused!
Joined: Jan 03, 2005 Posts: 630 Location: United Kingdom
Posted: Sat Feb 11, 2006 11:47 am Post subject:
I think people at work used to take advantage of me because they knew I wouldn't speak out or say no to them. I often found myself having to answer very intrusive questions about what I did in my social life from one nosy bitch who suspected I did everything on my own anyway.
Its fucking hard for me (mind my language). People think im a freak of nature and it is so difficult for me to carry on as normal. Especially when the whole world hates you, plus your battling with very bad bdd and ocd. I suppose i could have just thrown myself off Beachy Head and get rid of myself once and for all but i force myself to carry on, im still looking for anwsers. I guess i cant control what people think of me, and if they want to carry on thinking im a freak of nature then they so can. They can all fuck off, ill love myself.
But i definitely agree with you Naomi! Very true about people getting a sense of control from directing their anger towards some one who doesnt fight back (and cant). I have been a victim of a lot of manipulation from passive aggressive people (which by the way is my most dispised quality in some one!) But chances are you know more what youre talking about than the person who's controlling you. Let them know that.
Anxiety is definitely a curse in a lot of ways, but the one thing thats helpful about it, is that you TRULY see whos genuine. Something to think about is that a lot of people have even worse problems. Anxiety is ours. They might have something else. Even though it might not be a disorder, it's still something they might need to work on that is affecting their happiness. The thing about ours is that once we forget and quit worrying about our "problem" (anxiety) its not there! helps to remember sometimes.
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