Joined: Jul 02, 2005 Posts: 61 Location: United States of America
Posted: Wed Mar 15, 2006 4:38 am Post subject:
hey Reholla et. al,
What kind of anxiety did you experience? Just curious b/c I'm a college student too and having anxiety makes college so much more difficult to get through, as you've expressed before. My anxiety took the form of feeling uncomfortable writing in front of others and walking around alot of people. You can just imagine how this can pose as a major problem somewhere like a college campus, esp. a huge one. I'm not as bad as I was before though, luckily.
Can anyone relate to this? If so, did you figure out how to better handle and/or overcome the problem? Thanks!
hey!! I can relate to everything you said. Ditto to it all. I have gone threw a lot of "stages" of my anxiety, right now Im at what I guess i would call a "functioning" state. i can now go to class and feel ok. I can go public places, and im doing more social things every day.
some people who have had anxiety say that even tho the anxiety was horrible, their studies werent affected by it. I could see that happening, but thats just not the case for me. I cant focus as well in class, its hard for me to speak up if I dont understand the teacher. And when i should be doing hw, sometimes i dwell on how I could be going somewhere with friends.
So this is still something Im working on.
In response to your question...I honestly cant tell you ONE thing that has helped me. I wish there was some type of magic cure, or something you could do that would completely cure our anxiety. The thing about it is, you have to work at it everyday.
heres an analogy if it helps:
--Anxiety isnt like cancer where you are diagnosed, and then either cured or not. Its more of a process like diabetes, where you can get so much better you hardly have it. But its always going to be with you to an extent (as it is with everyone). Anxiety is an emotion, so youre always going to feel it at one time or another. Its just a matter of knowing you can control it. "Do something everyday that scares you." Challenge yourself. If you accomplish something be proud of what you did. If you try going to class, but you leave 20 minutes early, give yourself credit for what you DID, not what you didnt do. Heopfuly this helps
I'm a senior in high school and I can't wait to get out of here! Kids in my school are way too critical and judgmental. I'm overly sensitive to criticism so this is a major problem. I hope college kids are better...
By the way, I'm new to this site, too. It's pretty cool finding out that there are people like me out there
College is much better in ways. I commute so my experience might be different. You don't find yourself competing directly with anybody, therefore you don't feel you are being judged against your peers. In most cases, you are just trying to pass or get a 60% unless you plan to go to grad school. But don't aim for just a pass of course.
On the other hand, if this closeness to your peers is what kept you achieving academically, you might find a lack of direction. Also, there is very little social pressure to keep you focused (unless you have strict parents or close friends at university) so you might end up dropping out because the anonymity of everyone is just too distracting. I dropped out for two years and then returned.
Although you are surrounded by tons of people your own age and circumstance, you will probably get frustrated that you no longer have the opportunities like in high school to talk to fellow students. You'll have to actively search and step into opportunities more than in high school (sign onto extra-curricular lessons, events, even clubs if you can manage).
Oh and best of luck, I'm struggling through it too, all-in-all it is not too different from high school and I'm rooting for us SA's wherever the fight may be.
Definately. It has only become clear this year that this makes me the most anxious everyday. I moved to a new school with a few of my friends last year and while last year I thought initially it would be good, give me a chance to start a fresh where noone knew me, it just seems to have gone down hill this year. The friend I spent alot of time with last year in my free lessons left school and my other friends seemed to have made alot of new friends. While I have made new friends I don't know if they are 'real' new friends if that makes sense, how do you know when a line has been drawn into friendship. Well anyway they sit in the common room with two whole groups of new friends and I just feel like I don't know whether I really belong there or not. The common room makes me the most anxious, I can't walk in, I don't know if my friends will be in there and if they're not, I get worried I'll have to walk out again and look stupid. Or they'll be no spaces for me to sit down or if there is it will be by people who I don't know who really like me or not. So I basically miss out on my friends at school which makes me really upset. I often want to ring or text them and see if they're in there beforehand but then I worry that they'll think I'm paranoid. I spend my breaks often just hiding in the toilet or finding someone to do which often results just in going into town and buying food.
hi.i have been almost a year in college and really its difficult for me.i had a friend who was with me and i tried to talk to her and say how lonely i felt but she couldnt understand.now she left and i stay.you cant imagine now how i feel.i have to stay in college walking around alone-which i cant do this so i stay in class pretending that i have work to do-and waiting the bus to go home.its been difficult and i hope to finish college soon
I have been out of high school now for 5 years. I did join the Air Force until I was injured and was sent home. That was a depressing year for me because I loved being in the military and putting on the uniform everyday.
Now I'm planning on going to college. The bad thing is, not every college has the program I want to do (x-ray technician). There are only two schools near me and one about 2 hours away. I thought about going to the one two hours away and thought that maybe that would help my anxiety. Then I thought about it and I don't want to spend thousands of dollars and not sure if I can handle it.
The two schools near me, one is a community college and the other is a school in a hospital. I like the school in the hospital but it's so hard to get in that program. The one at the community college is also hard but not as difficult.
I did go to community college for one semester to get some credits to help me out. I did very well in my four classes (two being honor classes). I was so proud of myself but that was only one semester. In high school, I didn't care about school. I always planned on retiring from the military. I never thought I would get injured so I guess I was naive. I don't know how I would be with two years of school and I'm afraid of spending so much money and possibly not graduating. I wish I didn't have to go to college but I can't find a job that pays well to support me without college degree. I don't have kids nor am I married. So I only have myself to support.
I get so many nightmares about college that I wake up having an attack. For people who have anxiety and go to college, I definitely give them props. Thats really hard to do but thats taking a huge step into helping yourself. I just wish I was that strong.
I can totally relate to all of you. I though college life wouldn't be so bad but I completely hate it! It is so hard being hours away from my family. Having social phobia anxiety is multiplied like by 1000 at college. Worst of all I have a roomate so I feel uncomfortable and stressed like 24/7. When I'm alone I feel fine, and sometimes during the night I'll just wander the halls lost in thought. Classes are horrible, especially my art class because I'm so nervous of being judged or criticized. I cannot wait until this school year is over but then next year i have to come back. I wish I could end this evil cycle!!
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