Posted: Sun Apr 02, 2006 11:33 pm Post subject: I feel like I've conquered depression
Well I always look forward to waking up every morning now. It was not so last year. Things that have helped include - moving out of the house and living in my own apartment close to uni - I don't like my parents as they are too controlling. I think they may be a root cause of my depression.
Another thing which makes me excited to wake up each day is my new forum that I created 3 weeks ago. I enjoy chatted to my members (some from spw) and watching my site grow.
thanks for some hope! jauggy , im you last year and am living with overly controlling parents who give me dealines to wake up early every morning by 8 am, if i miss my alarm ill have to move out, and an abusive father, and i constantly think about suicide, i would love to move out and rent but even with my part time job at the bar probably wouldnt be able to afford it because of bills and i have literally nobody to talk to anymore, sounds like moving out has helped you and thanks for taking the time to post some good news, im from melbourne.
thanks for some hope! jauggy , im you last year and am living with overly controlling parents who give me dealines to wake up early every morning by 8 am, if i miss my alarm ill have to move out, and an abusive father, and i constantly think about suicide, i would love to move out and rent but even with my part time job at the bar probably wouldnt be able to afford it because of bills and i have literally nobody to talk to anymore, sounds like moving out has helped you and thanks for taking the time to post some good news, im from melbourne.
I actually told my parents how bad I was feeling and that I wanted to move out. I told them I'd be happier if I was living independently. They are the ones who are nowing paying my rent.
My parents aren't abusive - but they are controlling. They also don't understand what its liked being depressed though I had told them already that I was. One huge factor that probably caused my depression was that my mum died when I was 5. So I was living with my dad and stepmum and I hated both of them.
I wish you luck and hope you conquer your depression too.
Posted: Mon Jul 10, 2006 6:39 pm Post subject: This helped me out of depression
Hi,all
I was in college and my first serious relationship failed after a couple of years dating this girl. I fell into a pretty bad depression that made me hate her so much. That hatred was killing me, by the way. I had never thought of finding advice in books or things like that, but one of the professors suggested that I read a book by an author named Guy Finley entitled "The Secret of Letting Go". Basically, it shows you that it is not what happened that causes you to suffer, but an aspect of you mind that makes it into a painful scenario that it loves to revisit over and over. Sort of a masochistic affair with my own mind, totally in love with its painful interpretation of what happened.
Basically, one suffers because one thinks back on what happened when there is really no real need to.
Finley says: "The next time depression takes you over, think toward it instead of from it. What this means is that you are to realize in the moment of being taken over by the darkness that you are simply wrongly involved in thinking about your state from the state itself. This is exactly how negative states take us captive. See the depression as a temporary imposition instead of accepting the position the state is telling you that you must accept. Work at this. Your efforts will be rewarded."
This is pretty illuminating, I think. For any of you who would like to know more about this man and his work, www.guyfinley.org is chock full of articles and good stuff (for free!).
Hope this helps. It helped me.
Luis
yeh, im so interested in all that shit.And I hate the way your thoughts can determin how you act and feel,you sound like you now your shit so im not gunna get deep but interesting topic. nice work.
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Posted: Mon Jul 10, 2006 10:57 pm Post subject: Re: I feel like I've conquered depression
jauggy wrote:
Well I always look forward to waking up every morning now. It was not so last year. Things that have helped include - moving out of the house and living in my own apartment close to uni - I don't like my parents as they are too controlling. I think they may be a root cause of my depression.
Another thing which makes me excited to wake up each day is my new forum that I created 3 weeks ago. I enjoy chatted to my members (some from spw) and watching my site grow.
Hope you guys can conquer your depression too.
That's great, jauggy! I certainly wish I could look forward to waking up, too, it's sort of like a yardstick for happiness (okay, lack of depression, then).
I was wondering, you have to pay a company to host your pages, right? Or do you have your own server and a static IP-address?
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Joined: May 05, 2006 Posts: 65 Location: Australia
Posted: Tue Jul 11, 2006 1:50 am Post subject:
Good for you jauggy. I don't think I could ever look forward to waking up even if my situation improved. As I am slowly overcoming sp, my depression seems just as bad or worse.
I identified moving out quite a while ago, as something that could really help my state of mind in more ways than one. My parents are much the same, too controlling and constantly make me feel like im 12 again.
However I don't earn nearly enough and I don't think I could go the cheaper sharehouse route as I value my privacy too much.
But circumstances change and I hope they do as if I don't get out of this place within a year I'm going to explode.
is there a correlation between living in australia and having controlling parents? I'm from OZ too and have a similar situation at home but can't afford to move out and don't want to go the sharehouse route.
comforting to know there are others in a similar situation
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