boyfriend/girlfriend??

shell_59 · Guest

I'm just thinking about the embarresing things that happen to me...as u know im 18 and im a female,i have loads of guy friends but not many boyfriends its really straining my social life....i have so many guys asking me out but i always say no coz of hyperhidrosis,i know i cant use it as an excuse but its hard not to,my boyfriends want to hold hands,get really close and even when i love 'em so much and want to be with them it doesnt work....i have sweating in my hands so its hard for me....any suggestions for how to avoid these embarresing situations with the oppostie sex?? thanku

Chilling__Echo · Posted: Fri Feb 11, 2005 4:33 am Post subject:

just think of it this way, well first of all, i'm 19 and have been in a serious relationship for 2 and 1/2 years. my boyfriend is so outgoing, popular, you name it, he's that. when he asked me out, i thought that i'd freak him out and he'd leave. but just remember, if these guys are asking you out (especially if they are guy friends that know you before hand), they are someone that is willing to give you a shot. if they are good enough to be your friend, i'm sure they'd understand that hyperhydrosis is something you can't help. if you want to be up front about it, do it, but i'd bet that he'd be just as nervous as you. have confidence. the more comfortable you get the better

Guest · Posted: Tue Mar 01, 2005 1:50 am Post subject:

I'm an 18 year old girl and have had a similar problem. When I started college, I decided that I wasn't going to let my sweaty palms stop me from dating. When I go out with a guy, I put my arm over his shoulder instead of holding hands. I also make sure I wear a shirt that I can wipe my hands on in case I notice him going for my hand. The way I see it, if I go out with one guy on more than few dates, he will be understanding enough when I decide to tell him my problem. I know exactly how you feel, and the best advice I can give you is to not let your HH take over your life.

Guest · Posted: Tue Mar 01, 2005 1:50 am Post subject:

I'm an 18 year old girl and have had a similar problem. When I started college, I decided that I wasn't going to let my sweaty palms stop me from dating. When I go out with a guy, I put my arm over his shoulder instead of holding hands. I also make sure I wear a shirt that I can wipe my hands on in case I notice him going for my hand. The way I see it, if I go out with one guy on more than few dates, he will be understanding enough when I decide to tell him my problem. I know exactly how you feel, and the best advice I can give you is to not let your HH take over your life.

dirrtybee · Posted: Thu Mar 17, 2005 9:43 am Post subject:

I understand. I get soooo many approaches. and If i dated all the guys who were ever interested... Man what a slut haha.

But I reject it all, i get kinda angry as well coz i know i can't be with them. Coz i mean especially when you first start out its alot of touching and hand holding. I dont want my wer hands on his skin.

Ggirl · Newbie User Joined: Feb 08, 2006 Posts: 2

I was also at one point horrified about it. Then after I started dating and getting over that fear, I thought it was very silly to think that way and I'm sure one day soon you will feel that way too.
If the guy can't accept you for all that you are, then he's not the guy for you. If he has a problem with such a minor thing, then I'd say he's not worth your time anyway.

I remember when I first started dating, I told the guy about my "Condition", and he said "I like you, all of you, including your hands". I mean it sounds silly, but really that's what it is

Alina · Newbie User Joined: Apr 17, 2006 Posts: 44

ohh have teh same problems..its terrible+(((( if Im falling in love I need to stop myself cos Id liek to touch person you know and Idont want to feel embarassed...ehhh......I think the only thing you can do is to try to get rid of this prob ,or to find a person who would know bout it and like you anyway ,or someone who has it as well

seth · Posted: Sun Aug 13, 2006 11:54 am Post subject:

just i want to say that find a guy who can love u really. when he loves u he didn't care about H.H. Another option is finding a guy who has h.h. I am a guy and i am 27 years old. i am searching for a girl who has h.h but i never meet with a girl in my country . I am from Turkey and live in İzmir. I want to talk with girls who has h.h.

Alina · Newbie User Joined: Apr 17, 2006 Posts: 44

Danfalc · Posted: Tue Aug 22, 2006 3:16 pm Post subject:

I know its easy to say but try not to worry bout it and ruin things for you,like its been said before if someone likes you.. they like you full stop and it aint as bad a thing as your brain makes you think.I couldnt care less if a girl i liked had h.h.. or even a mate it wouldnt put me off holding there hand or anything,ive had occasions where ive had a girl over and its been to hot and they got worried cos they were sweating a bit but ive just said oh well lets be sweaty together lol,its better than sat there wanting to be affectionate with each other all night and not being able to touch each other.Its not like youve not washed and its stale week old sweat or anything.

I think you should be open about it and i think youll be pleasantly suprised that it wont be an issue Smile