thanks man, i did this too, like recently, and it worked then i realized it was all about the attitude, its so true, but then i didnt really practice it again
Girlk talking here... I have read some replies where u guys say may b it's easier for girls to overcover this, well I got something for u: Not true! I feel the same fear as u guys, of saying something stupid or that people are going be listening to every single word so they can laugh at me, and so on, I know, pretty paranoid, but that's how it is. It's been like my 5 years like that now. I don't believe it's a matter of gender, I have a male friend who used to be very shy, guys used to call him sissy cuz he was always with girls and didn't play soccer, but then the next year he totally changed. He wasn't shy anymore, no one ever called him that, he was elected the best friend of the class, and he got a gf. How did he do it? No idea, but he did.
About the positive attitude, I have tried it and it does work, it really does. It got so much better with that for a while, I was happy, enjoying myself, loving myself, but then I stopped repeating myself these positive thoughts, and it's like when u quit ur medicine just becuz u think u r ok, u fall again. Though, I met the light and it was beautiful, so I know there's hope, just gotta find the way back. Start loving myself I guess...
Hello! What LEMONKISS posted is so very true, and i have mentioned it here many times. You have to change your thinking from bad thoughts to good...constantly and forever. I read some of the replies to lemonkiss, and i read many words such as --''but, can't, won't, never, not, tried'' and so on. Those are the words of people who refuse to change or really commit to getting better. There is a ton of online articles on how to think positive and positive affirmations to read to yourself. What lemonkiss wrote is not some voodoo magic or some new and improved feel good new age magic. Look back to the bible and you find God's own advice to man on how to think and act in life. We (humans in general), have gotten ourselves stressed out with mental misery and if we stop and look inside ourselves, we will know what it is we need to do to get back at how we once were. You are what you eat, You act the way you think.
To everyone who has said that they can't pretend to be happy:
I totally agree with you! Pretending to be happy is something I tried to do about a year ago, and whilst I might have appeared to be making progress to outsiders, I still felt the same way inside - just possibly even more stressed with trying to keep up the image. Then, I read a post here about someone who had this perfect public persona but felt terrible on the inside, just like I was starting to do. So, I resolved to not let that happen to me.
What I'm just realising now, is that having a positive attitude is NOT the same as pretending to be happy. Happiness is just a feeling; a positive attitude runs a lot deeper than that, forming your whole view of the world. It's about seeing all the ways you can make your life better, and simply learning from, not obsessing over your mistakes.
Basically what I'm saying is that a positive attitude isn't the same as being happy... it's what you need in order to feel happy.
qipuqipu, that is quite true.
I have personally tried the whole positive thinking thing... But... It felt very unnatural. I honestly believe that this is not the way to overcome shyness. It may even lead to a relapse.
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