will you prefer your partner to be SA sufferer like you?
Yes
42%
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No
20%
[ 20 ]
Whatever, this doesn't make sense to me
11%
[ 11 ]
I don't know
25%
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LittleMissScareAll Expert User
Joined: Jun 15, 2005 Posts: 716 Location: Hell
Posted: Wed Dec 07, 2005 4:39 pm Post subject:
I've never had a boyfriend who has SA...I've had some that are shy, but they didn't have near the problems I had.
The last one I had though was really outgoing & social...we were complete opposites. Which worked out great at first, but I guess he eventually started to hate me for being different because he started ignoring me and I still haven't heard from him. And his last words were "I love you". Then I never heard from him the next day and he wouldn't answer my calls or emails. People like that should be locked up and tortured the rest of their miserable lives.
I'v never had a girl friend that has been SA. but my last girl friend was kind of out there. I thought she was shy at first but she turned out to be really outgoing and finally got fed up with my "mopey gothness" and left errr.. for a nother girl!!?. but that's another story. She's the only one who ever kind of understood me. I think I'd rather be with someone like me who has SA, so if nothing else we could at least hide away together.
I'v never had a girl friend that has been SA. but my last girl friend was kind of out there. I thought she was shy at first but she turned out to be really outgoing and finally got fed up with my "mopey gothness" and left errr.. for a nother girl!!?. but that's another story. She's the only one who ever kind of understood me. I think I'd rather be with someone like me who has SA, so if nothing else we could at least hide away together.
i like ur last sentence!!this is indees a vry intresting ques. there r adv. and disadv. with both choices. i being a sa, if i go 4 a non sa then sure thr wil b a lot of positivety arnd me btu will it really seep into me??will it really break the barrier around me n change me??it may happen only if the person loves me like crazy..but why will he...why will a normal person love someone like crazy who cannot give her evrythin back to him;who will always keep a large part of herself wih herself only
on d other hand if both r sa then nothin will b hidden from the other, but life will be very stressful 4 both- all the time solvin each others probs n maybe they will together get even further from reality than singularly. n mayb they will not hav many intrestin things to do together.....but if both r determined to get better together then nothin better than that..!
so considering both d options i think its difficult to 4 a sa to maintain a long term relationship wid a non sa coz as other ppl have also said -thr will alwys b a barrier. as of now i wud go 4 a sa man. but if a non sa man is ready to love me like crazy then ill surely go 4 him!!! bcoz..though im in such a miserable state i still believe-love conquers all!!!
_________________ alone im weak n mayb so r u;but togethr we can make a difference!!!
I have just began a relationship with someone who had SA too. Admittedly..there are other issues but I find that we are struggling. I think I would have prefered to have my SA and depression sorted before a relationship began.
Sadly...the relationship ended.
I think I shall wait until my SA is sorted before I try again...save myself the heartache.
Sorry to hear that, but I think it's better 4 u that you 2 ended the relashionship sooner, cause if it would have lasted longer you have had invested a lot more feeling and the break-up would have been more painfull.
Try to keep in mind this Good luck with your future one xxx
worrydoll wrote:
i suppose having an outgoing partner opens up much more opportunity and creates more interesting situations/experiences than being with a fellow sp/sa dude so..i suppose if youre insisting..i'll stick with the non-sp gf...maybe it would get boring to be with someone with the same small world as me?
I don't suppose, I am tottaly sure of that, and an outoing, talkative and non-depressed partner can be really contagious and you can really go out there and have fun, and when the SP kick in, she will be like your shield...I've been through there, belive me
Well, that and the fact that I told her I have SP, and with her being so understanding, nce and sweet there was absolutelly no barrier among us
I guess choosing a SA partner would minimalize your social contact and yould'nt help you that much to overcome this ''mental disease'' compared to a non-sp one. This s my oppinion.
I only had one relashionship till now and right now I'm trying one with a SP girl from my town. She is not that bad, as I showed her some sites, and she has said that she is not that phobic. Enough about this subject cause I'm going offtopic, I'll go discuss this fact in another topic.
So my present decision, NON-Phobic
_________________ What does not kill you makes you stronger...so that means I'm superman...yeah, sure
By the responses, it seems generally the SA guys prefer SA girls, but SA girls want non-SA guys. Kinda sad actually not even an SA girl likes SA guys...
But there are exceptions too,like me:
1 I like men generally.
2 I like people with SA.
3 So I love men with SA! (I never had one though,SA or not )
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Then I never heard from him the next day and he wouldn't answer my calls or emails. People like that should be locked up and tortured the rest of their miserable lives. 
Good luck with your future one xxx
